Nowadays, the institution of the family is not going through the best times. Increasingly, you can meet couples who are in no hurry to legitimize their relationship. And those who nevertheless go to the conclusion of marriage often do not live up to 10 years of marriage.
Despite the fact that divorce affects two, for some reason it is believed that after the breakup of the family, the woman suffers more. To refute this, and understand that you should not be afraid of divorce, I propose to look at real examples of women who have encountered this.
For some reason, the first thing that scares women is poverty. Well, this is a man who is the main earner in the family, and after a divorce, he will have to struggle from bread to water.
“After the divorce, the first time was difficult, so I just started working, building a career. Then she began to develop, moved to another city, visited many countries for work, my son, of course, is everywhere with me. We don't need anything. And if I had been married, all this would not have happened to me, ”- Anna.
“On the contrary, after my divorce, I and my daughters started to have enough money. And there was also less dirt and dust in the house, strange friends-parasites disappeared. I signed up for a psychologist, worked myself carefully, began to earn more, began to spend more money on clothes! And I also got a dog, my husband was always against it. So I didn't feel the minuses in the divorce, only pluses ”, - Katya.
“I don’t know, I was afraid that there would not be enough money, but for some reason, on the contrary, there were more of them. I had to rely only on myself, develop professionally, and accordingly, incomes began to grow. Once I caught myself thinking that I can afford a lot. It happened when I could not choose one of two blouses in the store, in the end I took both, ”- Lina.
And they frighten, especially young mothers, that after a divorce they will not have enough time for anything at all. But you don't have to cook five-liter pots of borscht, iron shirts, account for where and with whom you were. On the contrary, there will be more time and effort!
“I think I did the right thing when I developed. I finally have a real weekend when I can do nothing at all, and these days my ex-husband takes my daughter for himself. It would be even cool if he regularly paid child support, ”- Ksyusha.
“I don’t run home after work like crazy. I can safely go shopping, and no one will endure my brain that I was hanging around somewhere while he was waiting for dinner, hungry and tired ”, - Lena.
And do not forget about the kind languages that prophesy to poor women a complete lack of personal life after a divorce. In our society, as - a divorced woman with a trailer and a prominent man divorced.
“Yes, I have heard about myself that I am used and RSP. And then she met the man, took him with the child. But I don't want to get married, that's enough, I was already ”, - Yana.
“It's unpleasant that all my relatives and friends come to me with the question: when will you find a man? I don’t want to look for anyone, I feel good, I work, I bring up my son, I live in pleasure. I bought a car, I go on vacation to the sea, a hobby has appeared that even brings income. So no, for some reason everyone thinks that nobody needs me, that's why I'm alone. Some kind of nonsense, honestly, ”- Inna.
“My ex claimed that no one needs a woman with a child, no one will accept someone else's child. And I got married successfully, and he himself later married a woman with a teenage child, ”- Tanya.
According to statistics, both men and women in equal numbers again marry after divorce. So the statement of men on dating sites: "women with a trailer by" demonstrate their attitude, because they themselves figured out why no one writes to them. In fact, nothing can prevent new relationships and the creation of a new family!
Yes, divorce is not pleasant. But sometimes only he helps to solve life problems, gives a person a magic kick in the right direction and improves the quality of life. Dear women, it depends only on you whether your life breaks down or gets better! So, get yourself together and don't be afraid of divorce. It is much worse to live in a toxic relationship, to endure insults and dislike!
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