What would you like to be a good mother? Probably, every woman will give her own answer. Yes, my mother is kind, good, attentive, next to her is warm, good, cozy and calm. There are so many songs about native mothers, there are so many good poems about them! But let's talk today about what a mother should not do with her child!
I think each of us also has our own rules on this matter. For example, someone will say that a good mother will never hit a child, and you definitely cannot argue with that. Or, someone believes that a mother should always rest with her children, not leaving them in the care of grandparents. I have my own list. I hasten to share with you. I must say right away that I do not consider myself to be some kind of mega super-mommy. I am ordinary, with my own shortcomings, but I have certain taboos!
Mom should not do this in front of her children.
Swear
We are all living people, sometimes it is very difficult in life, we are nervous, angry. But even in this case, you need to remain restrained, controlling yourself in conversation with children. Well, the image of a mother in a child should not be associated with rude expressions and uncontrolled aggression. Think about it, try to change bad words with something else.
Violate the principles taught to your children
This, unfortunately, is what happens in many families. Moms impose some kind of prohibitions, but they themselves do not adhere to this. As an example, you can cite all the same mate, if the mother herself swears, and says to the child: “you can't”. Or a mother, for example, cheats, does not keep her promises, but demands the opposite from the child, then he gets the impression that it is not necessary to adhere to the rules at all. Is it right that adults can violate principles, and children must strictly comply with them?
Give yourself up
How will children learn the ability to stand up for themselves if the mother herself does not know how to do it? Therefore, it is important to learn to defend your point of view, your principles and interests. Children are taught not by words of wisdom, but by their own example! Only you yourself can show your children what to be and what not!
Discuss anyone
It is important to teach your child that gossip is bad. Therefore, it is not worth discussing whoever there is. Many mothers wash bones for teachers, neighbors, relatives, classmates of children and their parents right in front of children. Well, if you want to get worn out, do it when your kids are not around. Understand, you will discuss and forget, and children can remember your words, your gossip for a long time. And do not discuss the father of the child in front of the children, then you will reconcile a thousand times, and they will not have a very good impression of dad.
Deceive
Very often, parents either do not know the answer to the question asked by the child, or they simply do not want to answer something, and begin to deceive. Or they are cunning, for which they use deception. For example, instead of explaining for the hundredth time that chips are bad, they simply say that they are over. And then the child can find this dangerous but tasty product, and the trust in the parents will disappear. Be honest with your kids!
Swear with father
You may have conflicts with your husband, but never swear with him in front of your children. The child may well remember your behavior and what you say in the heat of the moment.
Making fun of others' shortcomings
It is important to teach the child to be tolerant of other people's shortcomings, because we are all imperfect!
Every mother tries to be good for her child. Stick to the rules listed above and you will already be on your way!
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