I don’t know by what laws it works, but the fact remains. As soon as you start helping someone, an enemy appears, just in the person of the person whom you began to help. Therefore, think a thousand times before interfering with it. You may not make an enemy for yourself, but an ill-wisher can definitely appear. And you can even fall into slavery in life, and they will start to use you constantly.
This happens very quickly, and at first even imperceptibly. You will be surprised, but there are states where you can even be sued. Well, for example, you are helping a person with something, this has already become part of some kind of obligation, for example, they gave him money or provided some other help. And suddenly you decide it's time to stop it all.
So this person whom you helped may continue to demand help from you and even pay him compensation. He's in damage, as soon as you stopped filling his pockets, his situation immediately deteriorated. And you yourself signed up for it. Maybe a person put your talents in the line "estimated income"! It turns out that they were hoping for you, but you took it and let it down, refused to help a person, thereby ruining all his plans and hopes!
The famous poetess Tsvetaeva even called the refusal to help a true swine. For 8 years, Salome Andronikova helped her. She worked in a magazine, and gave some of her salary to Tsvetaeva and her family. And she also collected money from friends for her so that she could spend time on the ocean, and also pay for her Parisian three-ruble note with a bathroom.
Salome also gave her furniture, her clothes and shoes to Tsvetaeva. Over time, a crisis came, money became scarce. What kind of rest on the ocean is there, when many had to literally survive? This did not suit Tsvetaeva, she already considered donations from Salome to be a permanent income, she was almost completely dependent on the woman. Tsvetaeva even began to write letters to Andronikova from the resorts: “Send me my dependents, everything is very expensive, we are very addicted! " But the help stopped, which Marina Tsvetaeva called the real beastly.
This is a common story, of which there are a million all over the world. First, they thank you, then they begin to rudely demand, and if they cannot get anything, they begin to get angry and insult. The lifeguard role is really thankless. You very quickly turn into a pig from this very rescuer, and absolutely everything that you did will depreciate. Refusal will cause anger, anger, resentment. After all, they counted on you, and you dared to act so ugly.
And jealousy may also appear, because you have money, delicious food, beautiful clothes, good furniture. Why does one get everything, while others get some leftovers? The person whom you helped, and then stopped, begins to feel humiliated, and all your previous help will be devalued in a moment. You will become nothing in his eyes. Therefore, it is worth thinking a thousand times before volunteering to help someone. Maybe they helped once, but then tie it up, otherwise the person will sit on your neck, and it will be safe to ride on you while you plow from night to morning.
They do not forgive those who previously helped and then stopped. Think about the consequences ahead of time. No one and no one owes anything, it is worth bringing it to the people who again need something from you. Otherwise, you will have to work your whole life for the good of someone, otherwise you will be a pig ...
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