Lydia Fyodorovna is already over 60, she is a little sick. And so, she ran out of bread, and she decided to ask her neighbor to buy it. But then she suddenly changed her mind and dined without bread. This did not leave her hungry, and the world did not collapse. Most importantly, her heart was easy, because she did not ask anyone for anything.
The woman already had a similar situation for a long time. She ran out of milk, and she could not go outside, again for health reasons. And so she asked her neighbor to buy her milk, she did not refuse, only she brought milk in a day. She then justified herself that she simply had no time, she could not run to Lydia Fyodorovna. And she still waited and waited, but did without milk and did not die.
And then the woman decided that it was not worth violating the principles of her personal independence. That is, she decided not to ask anyone else for anything. She was sure that this way her life would become more interesting, and even easier!
Lydia Fedorovna recalled how, while still in school, she somehow copied her independent work in mathematics from her excellent classmate. And the truth was revealed, which turned into a very unpleasant situation, and for both girls.
Even then, young Lidochka began to cultivate the principle of her independence. The principle was this: do not ask anyone for anything, you can ask when your or someone else's life depends on it.
Lydia never borrowed. There was not enough money, she somehow tried to stretch food, walked, instead of taking public transport, dispensed with a new blouse, lipstick and a portion of ice cream. Although Lida knew that she could always ask her friends for money, and they would not refuse her. But what are they going to think about at this moment?
It is impossible to know the thoughts of a person; it may be a pity to give him money. And such a request can cause the appearance of some kind of internal discontent in the borrower.
Lydia was always sure that you can only ask for something that is very difficult to do without. You can eat soup without bread, and pasta without butter, instead of asking someone. So you can sleep peacefully. You should not strain people over trifles, if there is an opportunity to do without someone's help, then why not do it!
If on a holiday, say March 8 or New Year, children, girlfriends, relatives do not call, then there is no need to ask for it. You can just stay at home and celebrate the celebration yourself. Or just watch TV, read a book, only at such moments you don't need to feel sorry for yourself.
It is very important not to feel sorry for yourself. It is clear that different thoughts will be spinning in my head, such as: "I gave birth to them, but they did not even call me", etc. But you need to think about the fact that resentment comes from despair. If you feel sorry for yourself in such moments, then resentment comes, which destroys not only relationships with people, but also your own health.
We must try and not ask anyone for anything, and then be sure to thank the Almighty for allowing us to calmly do without such requests.
As soon as a person learns from anyone and not ask for anything, what he dreamed of or what he needed so much will immediately come to him. Lidia Fedorovna last year celebrated her sixtieth birthday, and she made a decision that she would not ask people for anything. She knows that when you ask for something, it becomes so hard in her soul, somehow disgusting. If you can do without asking, a clear conscience will be the highest reward.
Do you think the woman is right? Or does she say her grievances, because once she already asked, and everything ended very badly?
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