I communicate a lot with men both in terms of duty and in general in life. And I thought, not in the form of a survey, but just in between times to ask them the following questions during the month:
What is important for a man in a woman?
What should it be?
What shouldn't it be?
More than a hundred men of different social status, wealth and moral principles expressed their opinion. To summarize, there are several basic requirements that are important to almost every man.
1. The most common and common wish is to see a well-groomed and good-looking woman nearby.
This was expressed almost unanimously, which once again confirms the fact that men love with their eyes and the picture they see every day is important to them. If next to them there is an unkempt, foul-smelling and not taking care of herself, they will not be pleased, even if they love her very much.
This does not mean that you have to spend tens of thousands on cosmetologists and beauty salons. But, going to the shower, washing your hair, trimming your nails, spreading cream on flaky skin and splashing yourself with deodorant is available to almost any lady. Count on your pocket naturally, but watch yourself.
2. In second place was the wish to see a working and not lazy companion nearby.
It is desirable with hobbies and hobbies. Men do not want to see a lazy and indifferent woman next to them. As a rule, such young ladies make their man the meaning of life. And men do not need increased attention to their person, and they also cannot give a bored lady the attention, in the required amount.
In general, loafers and lazy people very soon become uninteresting and they are kept nearby solely out of pity or convenience, while simultaneously looking for a more worthy woman.
It is important to understand that men do not want to live on the woman's support. The main thing is that she has something to do. And if she does not twitch a man for any reason, then everything is fine.
Balance is important, each has its own dynamics and rhythm of life. Don't bother men.
3. In third place, in most cases, they talked about children and thrift.
Now this issue is especially relevant, since women have achieved complete equality and work on an equal basis with men and are absolutely not inferior to them in anything. But, motherhood and home from time immemorial have been on a woman. And if you do not have the opportunity to hire a nanny and a housekeeper, most men agree to provide you as much as they can, as long as household issues concern them as rarely as possible. Home is not a man's territory; a man spends time and develops outside the home. It is morally difficult for them to be engaged in "female" affairs, it takes away male strength and energy from them.
It was also said that men are ready to help their chosen ones in household matters, but only if she asks them about it. Men do not understand hints and pouting lips. Please do not hesitate.
4. The last point was the question of finance.
It is extremely important for men that they are not used, and not only used as an "ATM". They, like all people, want a human relationship, to be loved, not for something, but in spite of everything. They are ready to provide for their family and give them everything, but no man will tolerate consumerism. As soon as they feel this, trust is lost and most likely they will hide income from you and maybe something else.
This does not mean that your budget should be separate and every man for himself. The question is in approach and honesty to each other. If you love and respect a man, you will appreciate his work, spend money wisely, taking into account his income. In return, he will trust you and try to make your life more comfortable.
In my opinion, quite reasonable requirements. Nothing extra and supernatural.
Of course, the men surveyed are not an indicator and there are different individuals in the world. Someone enjoys sitting at home and doing nothing. Drinking, cheating, or even raising a hand against your woman. Fortunately, life does not connect me with such characters in any way.
In the next article I will write about female "Wishlist" in relation to Russian men.
