What is common between grandmothers on a bench, beauty and health? What can be more dangerous in aging than ultraviolet radiation, alcohol and smoking? And what does the grandmother have to do with discussing everyone in their yard? Let's figure it out now. My name is Lisa, and you are on the most adequate and useful channel about beauty.
Grandmothers on a bench are a well-known invariable element of the landscape of Russian courtyards. How many jokes about them were invented on the Comedy Club and other humoresques - you can't count. And there is little funny in this.
You just can't imagine how strong it is for our health (and as a result - beauty) one destructive thing. The damage is commensurate with excessive alcohol consumption and smoking under the scorching sun. This terrible thing is called loneliness. This is not my idea. This is a fact and a topical topic for scientists from all developed countries.
A few facts about why loneliness is harmful
In January 2018, the UK introduced such a position - the Minister for Loneliness. I remember this news and how they mocked in the comments, they say, all these "British scientists with their research" are doing nonsense.
But in February of this year, a similar position appeared in Japan. And here for some reason they don't laugh, because our people associate everything Japanese with quality and progress.
In Japan and the UK, there is a whole commission that deals with issues of loneliness. This means that the problem is serious, since such a whole structure as a ministry has appeared at the state level.
Loneliness is not just about skin or health issues. It kills, in the truest sense of the word. I do not like such loud phrases, I have never traded with this on the channel. But what about loneliness is a fact.
Lonely people are under chronic stress. And not in periods, but constantly. Because of this, their adrenaline is constantly increased. And this, roughly speaking, very quickly "wears out" the body.
And you and I know perfectly well that a "worn out" organism does not lead to anything good: the hormonal background changes, everything affects the production of collagen and blood microcirculation. The skin (I understand that this is a particular example, but I have a channel about beauty) begins to fade, the frame becomes weaker, the formation of flews is possible. But these are still flowers. The berries are in front.
Lonely people do not sleep well. Poor sleep - excess cortisol. This is a very valuable, but at the same time, dangerous hormone in excess. It was conceived by nature in order for a person to be able to survive in stressful situations. Cortisol is not infinite in our country, and its excess is the risk of developing diabetes and obesity. I wrote about this in detail a year ago, I added a link at the end of the article.
Loneliness very seriously increases the risk of cardiovascular mortality. There is a whole study about this, who is interested - I gave a link to it at the end of the article.
Can loneliness be overcome?
Not always, but possible. The bad news is that loneliness can be inherent in the genetic level. But don't be alarmed, you can work with it, everything can be changed.
The second important factor after heredity is changes in the hormonal background. It will not be superfluous to contact an endocrinologist to check the thyroid gland.
The third important factor is the lack of social skills. This is for the most part our younger generation will face. Someone does not know how to stand the dialogue live, is nervous being in a crowd of strangers. Or, in a company of more than three people, they become a "listener" and feel embarrassed to say anything. There are also people who, from "hello-bye" with a neighbor on the staircase or on the street, do not know how to extract everything they need so as not to feel lonely.
This requires work with a psychologist, cognitive-behavioral therapy. In combination with treatment by an endocrinologist, this gives excellent results.
If your family and friends feel lonely, you are obliged (yes, it sounds arrogant, but what can you do) to help him. Otherwise, the person will disappear, and you will regret it very much. A lonely person needs help to draw into some kind of interaction, help him to contact you. It can be games of cards, dominoes, discussion of a TV show. You might think this is a waste of time, but for a lonely person it is comparable to good therapy.
And where are the grandmothers on the bench?
It's simple. They don't need any cognitive behavioral therapy. They sit to themselves and talk about the same thing. Let it go. It is right. This is useful. They are not lonely, this is the most important thing.
Polyclinics, various municipal courses on the same training for older people to work at a computer - it's all great. Maybe grandparents are not worried about their health, maybe they will not learn how to work at a computer. But it is important that they have created a comfortable environment for communication and acquaintance with each other. They will live longer because there is social interaction.
Those who already find it difficult to move around - there are benches in the yards. Close, free and a great opportunity to prolong life, to feel good. They may annoy you, but you do not give them any alternatives to enjoy life and live longer. Let them talk. It is important.
If you want to live longer at 60-70 years, but there is no one around in the house, you will also love the benches. And that's okay.
Read also:
What if you think you have aged dramatically?
Research on the health effects of loneliness (Note from Oxford Academy Journal Annals of Behavioral Medicine)
