Every married couple has crises. It would seem that people live in perfect harmony, and then something happens, and everything goes awry. Why is this happening and what can be done about it? And in general, what kind of family crises are there?
Usually, family crises happen after some important event. We will analyze this further. The fact is that sometimes you just can't do without the help of a psychologist. But I sincerely hope that my article will help you build relationships without going to a specialist. After all, knowing the enemy by sight, you can calculate everything a few steps ahead!
A crisis in family relations means that a couple is entering a period when it is not possible to live in the old way, but it is not yet possible to live in a new way. But a crisis is like change, and there is no need to be afraid of change. If you correctly get out of the situation, this will lead the family to further development. Although there are many cases when, on the contrary, the relationship completely collapses. By the way, betrayal is not a crisis, but a betrayal, so you don't need to row everything with the same brush!
Psychologists identify 6 types of family crisis
Mutual addiction
Such a crisis can overtake a couple in the first years after a wedding or living together. Think for yourself, you met, fell in love with each other, or you developed mutual sympathy, you have a lot in common, but still you are different people. You may have completely different views on the conduct of life, which will begin to lead to scandals. How do I solve this? Well, it's easier to prevent it by choosing your partner carefully. If you have already encountered this, then everything needs to be decided only by conversations, compromises, understanding of the second half.
Birth of a child
A very common crisis! As they say, the husband is recognized by decree. For a young mother, almost all of her strength goes to the baby, but she doesn't have to go to her father. He begins to freak out, stay late at work, spend time with friends. How do I solve this? Women should try to make time for their husbands, but men should be advised to treat with understanding the state of a young mother, this is a huge stress - the birth of a child. Help your beloved, take, if possible, some of the worries on yourself, and then she will have free time for you!
The birth of the second child
The first child went to kindergarten or school, relations in the family are well-established, as here the couple decides to “go” for the second one. And it starts all over again, only worse. By this time, the spouses are already tired of each other, and coldness appears in the relationship. How to be? Competently distribute responsibilities in the family, and you also need to learn how to compromise!
Transitional age of children
Puberty is such a tricky thing. It is hard for the child, and for the parents, and between the spouses, feuds begin. The teenager begins to prove to everyone that he is an adult, mood swings begin, tantrums are also possible. During this period, the child needs the attention of the parents, not their scandals. The teenager will make important decisions on his own, which are often wrong, hence the quarrels. What to do? Try to give the child freedom, but within reasonable limits, to maintain contact and trusting relationships with him. Dad and mom should be on the same wavelength with each other and with the child.
Departure of children from parental home
Imagine, the child was always next to you, and then once, and it's time to "fly away from the nest." There is no one to give their love, care, attention to; many couples suddenly realize that they have never loved each other. They just get lost. And here it is important to look for something in common, for example, a hobby or something else that brings people together. If this crisis is overcome, it will be possible to find spiritual closeness! And I will also say that in order to survive this crisis, a couple should think in advance and understand that in addition to parental responsibilities, there are also marital responsibilities!
Loneliness after growing up grandchildren
While the couple is helping their children raise their grandchildren, both feel needed and young. And then grandchildren grow up, and emptiness comes again. Grandfather and grandmother are needed less and less. Many people just turn into old people before our very eyes. Here children and grandchildren should take note - the older generation needs attention. As for the spouses themselves, it is worth advising them to be more tolerant of each other. And it is better if there is already mutual understanding and trust in your relationship, then the crisis will pass much easier.
Any crisis in the family becomes a test. Try to maintain love and trust in your relationship. Tell us in the comments, how did you get out of such crises?
The original article is posted here: https://kabluk.me/psihologija/6-semejnyh-krizisov-kak-sohranit-otnosheniya.html
