It seems to you that he loves you so much, cares about you, but very often caring is confused with control. And you are already accustomed to living this way, you smile when he does not allow you to meet with your friends, because he says that he is worried. After all, he tries so hard for you, protects you from everything bad. Sometimes, when you love a person, you begin to perceive control on his part precisely as care. But a caring man allows his woman to make decisions on her own, he does not threaten, does not press, and does not turn everything over so that you do only as he wants!
Here are the signs of male control and no concern!
1. He humiliates you, but says he tries for you.
He claims that you cannot make decisions on your own, so he decides everything for you. He tells you what to do, justifying it, that everything is only in your best interest. But that is never in your best interest.
2. He blackmails you and punishes you for disobedience
He treats you like a child. If you do something wrong, as he said, then he does not do what he promised, does not buy what he promised, does not help in what he promised. He may be offended at all, and even stops talking to you.
3. It prevents you from chatting with your friends.
He may say something bad about your friends, instead of you going to meet them, he pulls you to another place. Or he can tell you directly that he is against your communication with old friends.
4. He never listens to you
He imagines himself "daddy", decides everything for you, and never listens to you. And all your attempts lead nowhere, and maybe even lead to a scandal. He just doesn't care what you decide there, he doesn't care about your opinion.
5. You started to question your own beliefs
You love him, you trust him, and therefore you began to believe that he is always right. You gave him the rule of your own opinion and your decisions. Now you are beginning to question your own beliefs. This is a very disturbing sign, you are communicating with a manipulator and you are in a toxic relationship. He began to succeed in adjusting you to himself.
6. Your friends started telling you that they don't like the way he treats you.
Friends only want the best for you, from the outside you really know better. And your man may say that they are just jealous of you, because you have a caring partner. But what is there to be jealous of if it is clear that you are like a puppet in his hands?
7. When you are near him, you cannot relax at all, because you think that he will say how he will react to your words and actions.
This is very bad. Because in a healthy relationship, a person feels relaxed, comfortable, he remains himself. But, if you are constantly worried about how he will react, then something is wrong!
8. Anything bad in your relationship makes you feel guilty.
He set you up like that! It is he who, with all his words and actions, is trying to make you feel guilty. You disobeyed and went to a cafe with a friend, you put on a short skirt, and because of this, there was a scandal. Now you blame yourself, because if you behaved as he says, you would be fine. Is it good at all with you?
If you are in constant tension, do only what the man tells you, are afraid to stumble and say something ridiculous, pretend to be perfect... It's just awful. And you are not a caring man, but a toxic manipulator! He controls you! Think about it! You are wasting your life for nothing!
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