For a long time, anecdotes about mother-in-law and son-in-law have faded into the background, now more and more you can hear incidental stories about mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. But I don’t think it depends on the status in the family, it all depends on the person himself. I do not argue that there are mothers-in-law who know how to be friends with their son's wife, help in every way, but they don’t climb into the lives of children. But today, the story is not about such a mother-in-law, but about an annoying woman who wants to control everything around, including her daughter-in-law.
“My husband is from a large family, he has two older sisters and one younger brother. The mother-in-law has already turned 70, she lives alone, because the father-in-law died five years ago. The husband's mother has her own big house, there is just enough space for all the children and grandchildren. But no one is in a hurry to visit her, because she drives her crazy with her nagging and moralizing. But the woman does not despair at all, but gathers and comes to visit herself. We were "lucky" more than the rest, because we live with my mother-in-law in the same city, 10 minutes by taxi, and she is already with us, climbing on cabinets and fridge.
My mother-in-law's visits are a real test for me. I, of course, understand that she is an elderly person, and generally grew up in completely different conditions. Therefore, although her advice annoys me, I endure, keep silent, nod my head.
My husband and I are not rich, but we don't count a penny. We, like almost everyone else, have loans and mortgages. My husband earns well, I work part-time at home. After all the debts and the communal flat have been paid, there is not much money left, but we pull, and we have enough for food. It's just that a lot goes to my daughter. But we even manage to put off on vacation, so that in the summer we can go to the sea. And the mother-in-law calls us spenders!
For example, she constantly swears that I throw out the packages. The mother-in-law says that you need to save even on trifles and think about the future. In her opinion, trash bags should not be used at all. You can put a newspaper on the bottom of the bucket, and then just wash it, and that's it. And she considers shoe polish a useless waste of money, you can smear your shoes with Vaseline, it will be no worse. And so about everything - the dishes need to be washed with laundry soap, and washed by hand. So how do you react to this? Now I just look at the washing machine, occasionally wiping dust from it?
My mother-in-law also has her own opinion about food. For example, she considers it a waste to buy greens in the supermarket, says that porridge needs to be boiled in water, and pasta is bought cheap - they boil better and the dish turns out to be more satisfying. Cooking soup on meat is expensive, you can just throw a bouillon cube for taste, and it will turn out tastier. Once she found out that we ordered pizza, and how let's yell:
- You could cut a sausage on a loaf, and rub the Druzhba cheese on top, it would have turned out much better and cheaper!
And recently, right in front of my mother-in-law, I threw my husband's socks into the trash. How she started screaming. I climbed into a bucket, took out socks, began to wash them, dry them and mend holes. When I showed her how many socks my husband had, she again took offense and accused us of squandering.
I just can't take it all anymore. My friends already started laughing at me: “Che, my mother-in-law is coming, and you mend your socks? Have you covered the bucket with a newspaper? " My husband asks me to ignore this. He says that the father often drank, and the mother had to pull the household and four children herself, she had to save on everything, she just got used to living like that.
And I endure, but I really do not like that my mother-in-law climbs into our lives. Checks receipts, asks where I bought and for how much food, this does not go into any frame! This is my life, and I want to set the rules in it myself, and not live according to the commandments of my mother-in-law! I’ll probably explode soon, and I’ll tell my husband’s mom everything in the face! ”
What can you say about this situation? Is the mother-in-law right? Maybe she really cares about the kids and wants to teach them how to save money. Or is it a waste of time to listen to it. Or maybe a woman should put her husband's mother in her place? How do you think?
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