If you wanted to cook someone borscht or fry cutlets, you should know that there is nothing good in such a sudden desire! This is an elementary syndrome of the hostess, namely, the voluntary burden of everyday life on oneself.
- I just want to give birth and raise children.
- I have always dreamed of cooking delicious dinners for my husband!
- It is a woman who should cook, iron, wash and clean, a man should not do this.
What do you think a woman looks like when she wears it out? A young girl raised in a patriarchal family? Or maybe a village woman with a long braid and an apron? Or maybe some notorious lady who thinks that she will not be able to attract even a poor peasant with anything else? So no! Most of our Russian women think so. They are successful, between the ages of 25 and 40, and their heads are not at all patriarchal.
They work, travel, have fun with friends, and they are also very beautiful, well-groomed and self-sufficient. And you know, they miss the very time when they had to cook borscht for their husband for not a single hour or dream of meeting the very one they will serve. And so, it would seem, men should line up for such persons. But it was not there. Yes, they have hostess syndrome, and they are ready to take the whole life into their own hands. But they have their own requirements for men.
Here is what a man, in their opinion, worthy:
With a well-paid job
Yes, many successful women agree to quit their jobs for the sake of a man who will bake pies, and he, in turn, will provide them from head to toe.
Very strong
Indeed, why should they be weak? The chosen one must be strong, a kind of Viking, a warrior, so that there is nothing scary next to him. His business is to earn money and protect the family. It would also be nice if he was silent, without emotional needs and problems. Well, the rock is rock.
Understanding and liberal
So that he does not control, does not limit spending, does not cheat, and even so that he does not look at other women. He must be flexible in communication, understanding, must go with a woman to visit, to exhibitions, to restaurants, call her mother not mother-in-law, but mother, and generally cry with happiness that he has such a wife.
So all these women are ready to give up their careers, forget about feminism and surrender completely to just such a man! For this, you can cook a three-course dinner, wash the floors every day, clean the dishes for him. He's worthy! And then, he understands, and if the spouse gets tired, he will hire a cleaning lady.
In general, a kind of patriarchy without its drawbacks. But it seems that such a relationship cannot exist at all. Dreaming about them is like wanting to see a unicorn. So these women with hostess syndrome live in unrealistic expectations, repeating that “there are no normal men left”, “there are only squishies around”, and so on.
A little time runs, and that "worthy" never meets. Discontent with oneself, the world begins, envy of friends who have been married for a hundred years. There is a kind of cynical attitude towards men. And then a generally good man turns up. The work is not ice, but it goes, gets above average, not a millionaire, but ok, of course, not a Viking, but overall not bad. And they begin to live with such, and there is a mistress syndrome, so the ladies themselves load themselves with everyday life and household chores.
Fortunately, now all such female problems can be easily solved with the help of competent psychotherapy. But do we all immediately agree to get rid of toxic illusions that have become familiar and familiar?
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