Are you confident in your friends? Sometimes we are so preoccupied with some problems, and so trusting of others that we do not even notice that there are fake people around us. They use friendship with us exclusively for their own purposes. Agree, this is very unpleasant?
Unfortunately, very often the truth is revealed late, and it becomes very painful. And it hurts first of all because of wasted time. Therefore, I invite you to find out the true face of your friends right now.
Psychologists identify signs that will indicate to you that your friends are fake
They only like to talk about themselves.
Your friends love to talk about themselves so much, it gives them just unspeakable pleasure. And how things are with you, they are not at all interested. As a last resort, they can ask about it at the very end of their monologue.
They do nothing for your relationship.
Yes, in any relationship, be it a relationship with a partner or with a friend, you need to do something, make efforts to develop them. If your friend is fake, he will assign all the "work" to you, about 80 percent, and he himself will be reluctant to do anything.
Their care is like a bargain
They can help you, but only if they are convinced that you will come to their aid. It's just that you don't even need to expect good from them, they will expect something in return.
They raise their self-esteem at your expense.
Do you know how it manifests itself? Fake friends know that you wish them well, so when they feel bad, when they fail, they run to you first. You pity them, cheer them up, and this is how they raise their self-esteem at the expense of you. Communication with you gives them confidence in themselves and in their abilities.
They never support you, but they like to complain about their problems.
They will never substitute their shoulder for you, moreover, they will even be glad of your falls. But coming to you with your failures, as mentioned in the previous paragraph, is always welcome, this is about them!
They will not sacrifice themselves for you.
Of course, this is not about a real donation, but about psychological assistance and wasting time on you.
They turn into kind, good and considerate when they need something from you.
They can disappear for several days, and then call with the words: "Can you help me?", "Can I count on you?" and stuff like that. And you, of course, will help, right?
Because of them, you constantly have to change your plans.
And you do it of your own free will. And then you already feel like a pawn in some of their games. You reschedule meetings, sacrifice personal relaxation, skip fun activities, and all for the sake of fake friends.
They are ungrateful
You help them from the bottom of your heart, but you have never heard a simple "thank you" from them. Because everything you do is taken for granted by fake friends.
They force you to provide them with "ambulance"
Are you familiar with this situation? Call in the middle of the night, urgently need help, and you rush to the other end of the city, leaving everything for a friend. And what, just an ideal format of communication, you are used as they want.
They take offense when you refuse them.
It is clear that you cannot completely rebuild your life for friends, because there are things that need to be solved urgently. But, as soon as you say “no” to your fake friends, as soon as you refuse them, you will immediately learn a lot of new things about yourself, and even your company is notified!
They ask for help, but if you refuse, they disappear
Of course, why would they need a person from whom there is nothing to get?
Your friendship depends only on you
You must accept their opinion, bend under them, be comfortable, then there will be a so-called friendship between you.
Communicating with them drains you.
You begin to understand that you have not felt good and free with these people for a long time. You are constantly on your toes.
You ask yourself the question: when did your relationship get so bad?
And the answer is that before your relationship was not good, you just did not see it, did not pay due attention to it, and the fake friends were at first careful, but now they have become more insolent. You have seen their true colors!
Have you ever had fake friends in your life?
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