Each parent should make comments to the child, they are an integral part of education.
Why, in some cases, after the remarks, the child not only does not listen, but also begins to behave worse?
Psychologists believe the answer lies in how the remark was made.Don't be categorical
Don't shout, don't do that, you can't eat pizza, don't stomp… The child will hardly listen to you, because he does not see the meaning in the prohibition. Instead of a categorical prohibition of pizza, offer healthy food, explain why loud walking around the house undesirable (dad is sleeping in the next room), call to responsibility and ask to behave more consciously.
Don't get personal
Never insult your child or use other children as examples who are smarter, more obedient, and so on. You can hardly achieve your goal, and if the child starts listening to you, then who will then be responsible for his complexes?
Tell your child how you love him
Use a technique that even works for adults: start with a good one, and then, when the child has already calmed down and understood, that you still love him, tell him not to do that next time, because he disappoints his parents.Don't be afraid to ask questions about your child's motives.
Remember that you know that calling names is bad, the kid from his bell tower can see the situation differently.
Recall
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