Every person wants to be happy with their soul mate. But now there are so many breakups and divorces that it seems as if it has become a fashion. Sad and sad. But there are only two simple rules that help in this matter. Using them, you can change your personal life forever. One can only sympathize with those who are not familiar with these truths, because they will spend their whole life nerves and time on completely inappropriate people!
These are the rules
The first rule is: "Your relationship should bring you joy."
Now, as soon as the relationship has ceased to please you, that's it, you need to stop them. I do not know how to explain this to young people, because they are still naive in this regard. It seems to them that, for example, “well, let him drink and then behave inappropriately, when sober everything is fine with us,” or, “well, even if she deceived me once, the same will not happen again.” No, if your relationship began to bring you not joy, but disgust, you need to break it!
You don't have to get used to smashing dishes, scandals, insults, accusations, reproaches, fights. Is it normal? No, this is a direct path to hell, nothing will change over time, nothing, and it can get even worse!
As soon as an inadequate scandal begins - leave this relationship as soon as you understand that the joy of your words are not - close your mouth, as soon as a person begins to humiliate you, trample, insult you - break with him. There is no relationship “for the sake of the children”, “everyone lives like that”, “but there is a man,” “out of habit,” “nowhere to go,” “I can't cope with the children alone.” This is not a relationship, but delirium! You can immediately take such your relationship and carry it to the trash.
The second rule: "Relationship should be easy."
If you don't feel light at the beginning of your relationship, then don't expect things to get better later. It should be easy for you right away, literally from the first minutes. You may feel that you have known each other for ages, that you are like old acquaintances, that you have already met many times. Such a person suits you much more than the one you will have to courteous for years!
Do not be surprised, but the man with whom you retired in a fitting room or in a club toilet just after 15 minutes of your acquaintance is much better than the one to whom you have written letters for many years without receiving from them at times answer.
The woman who is interested in you is much better than the fifa who needs to be taken on vacation abroad. If just in a relationship is good, if "everything is complicated" - that's bad, period!
This is an axiom that does not require proof, do you understand? In a relationship, you don't need to prove anything to anyone. You don't have to strive for anyone, run, adjust. It should be straightforward, easy, good, without pretense, like an open book.
If it didn't work out right away, then there is nothing to pull the cat by the tail. It is better to let the person go, do not torture yourself or him. It's just not your person, that's all. If you have a lot of time and are bored, then well, you can try to enter into such a difficult relationship. But someday you will play enough, and you yourself will understand that you spent a lot of time, nerves, energy, and did not become a happy person.
It’s silly to try to take out a complicated relationship. It's humiliating when you have to dance to someone's tune, so it's best not to try! It's painful, stupid, useless.
Just two rules, so simple, but so important!
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