If, during the absence of contraception, families gave birth to 10 children, now it is necessary to specifically decide on at least the second.
1. Why do you want to have a second child and is this exactly what you want?
By itself, the question of why we have children does not have a clear answer. Often it is a mixture of instincts, fear of missing something in life, the influence of stereotypes, and so on. But now you already have one child. In your own eyes and in the eyes of society, you are supposedly a "real", accomplished woman, a mother who has fulfilled her natural function.
What drives you to have your next child? Maybe your relatives press you with their questions "Well, when for the next one?" Or are you haunted by the example of friends, each of whom has already given birth several times? Or did the husband want a son, but a daughter was born - and now he insists on a second "attempt"?
If, at the thought of a second child, you are not sure that you really need it, if there is a feeling of anxiety, you need to "decide" if you clearly understand that you just want to please someone with this decision, then it is better to postpone a new pregnancy, otherwise it does not fly specifically to you happier.
2. Do you have any help?
If there is a slight age difference between the children, you will definitely need the constant help of a nanny or grandmother. Otherwise, there will simply not be enough resources of strength, nerves and patience for two children. So do not rush to wind up the weather if you are not sure that someone can help with them every day.
3. What will be the age difference between children?
A woman's body is fully restored three years after the previous pregnancy and childbirth. This time will also become the optimal age difference between children. Too little difference will put a heavy burden of worries for you about the two toddlers, who will show their jealousy in endless fights. And the big difference will make the children too distant from each other. In addition, the older child will certainly be assigned to look after the younger, which will not please him at all.
4. How are things going with finances?
Even if you have a house full of belongings from an older child, adding a new family member will add a lot of expenses. And, of course, the older he is, the more investments he will require. There is a popular expression "God gave a child - he will give to a child", but if you do not want your the kids needed something, make sure in advance that you can afford the birth of a second child.You will be interested to know pranks that all older children do with younger ones.
