How to behave in a parent chat to avoid conflicts

If your children go to kindergarten or school, you are probably a parent chat in one of the messengers. They have long been the subject of memes, jokes and ridicule - and it's no wonder: in general, not everyone and not always succeed in communicating via correspondence on the Internet, and if you are not you really know the people on the other side of the screen (and don't really want to know), it generally turns into walking through a minefield, where every word can be wrong interpreted.

Parent chats are famous primarily for the conflicts that occur in them. We will tell you how to behave and how to communicate in order to avoid such a situation.

1. Do not write to the chat outside of working hours

Ideally, all issues should be resolved somewhere between 9 and 19 hours. No one will be pleased with suggestions and questions, notifications of which come at 6 am or 12 am. Imagine calling the people you are writing to. You probably wouldn't be calling them in the middle of the night, right? Ideally, the "schedule" of the chat and its other features should be a clear list in the pinned message.

2. Don't clutter your chat with messages

You do not need to send pictures, congratulations, your thoughts and any messages there without constructiveness. The essence and really important information is lost behind them.

3. Don't leave voice messages

Firstly, not everyone can listen to them, and secondly, no one wants to listen to them. If you have important information, announcement, question, then they should be written. As a minimum, it is more convenient to interact with them.

4. Do not make unnecessary comments and do not get personal

Correct grammatical errors or point out other similar flaws - bad taste and "air pollution" in the parent chat. Try to write competently and to the point.

5. Do not become childish

If you have something to say about someone else's child, write it to his parents in private messages. Bringing such conversations out to the public is a direct path to conflict.

6. Reread the message before sending

Make sure that your words are not confused by AutoCorrect, they have enough letters and meaning. Write informatively, without rushing into semi-phrases that make it difficult to understand what you wanted to say. And try to put a thought in one message, do not send them 10 pieces of 2-3 words.

7. Don't write on emotions

If the situation is tense, you are angry or annoyed, offended - do not write an angry message in the general chat. Look away from the phone, get some air, pause, evaluate the consequences of what you want to write (for your own child, first of all). Then formulate your thought in a neutral tone (without sarcasm, mockery, unnecessary turns, comparisons, and even more so without insults), re-read it a couple of times - and then just send it.

If you have a conflict situation with a specific parent - go to personal correspondence, not forgetting to restrain the urge to write some nasty thing. Ideally, there should be a fair moderator in the chat, crossing all attempts to clarify the relationship and bullying any of the participants.

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