5 questions to ask yourself before looking for love

Not all people seeking love are ready for it. Paradox, isn't it? This is evidenced by the statistics of unhappy unions. The presenter of the reality TV "Kohannya na vizhivannya" (Novy Channel), despite the diploma of a psychologist, also got burned at one time.

Bitter experience was good for him. Now he is happy in a relationship. What questions should you ask yourself before pairing?

Do I really want a relationship?

Sometimes a person doesn't really need love. He enters into a relationship, so to speak, not of his own free will.

Why is this happening? Close ones can put pressure on him, reminding him of the "ticking watch". Or he is afraid of being alone. And instead of dealing with his true fear, he compensates for it at the expense of the other person.

The union that was created in neurosis is unlikely to be happy.

Do I want a serious relationship that will lead to marriage?

Starting a family is a natural stage in interaction in a couple. Otherwise, why waste your time dating if you don't see a shared future with this person?

Am I ready or ready to give, not just take?

Many couples enter neurotic relationships in order to “love themselves” in them.

This happens when they did not receive enough warmth from their parents in childhood. Such a union is very exhausting for each participant. Relationships are not a "one-sided game", for them to be happy, you need to take and give.

What can I give my partner?

Now it's not just about love and sex. Human life is like a roller coaster with ups and downs. Are you ready to support your partner in difficult times? And to rejoice at his success? Will you be able to accept his failures and mistakes? And give good advice? What can you give your partner besides love and sex? If you understand that there is nothing, then it is better to postpone the search for a soul mate. After all, most likely, you will meet a person who also cannot give you anything in return. It is impossible to give an empty heart to another. Before looking for love - fill yourself, deal with your inner problems.

Why do I need a relationship?

Many are looking for love to fill the void, to shift their problems onto the shoulders of another. Or to match a certain image of a successful person. Such an alliance will end in total disappointment and pain.

What kind of relationship can be in extreme conditions - watch this fall in the reality show "Kohannya na vizhivannya" on the New Channel.