What to do if a child cries every day in kindergarten

Adaptation of babies to kindergarten usually lasts no more than 3 weeks. If this time is not enough for the child, he is still constantly crying, then it is worth discussing the situation with the teacher, if necessary, contact a psychologist (there are also psychologists in kindergartens).

How does the lack of adaptation differ from the usual children's unwillingness to go to kindergarten, for example, due to early rise?

1. The child begins to cry on the way to the sadiu, breaks up hard with the parent, then cries for a long time in the group.

2. The kid does not communicate with other children in the group, tries to stay away from everyone, spends the whole day waiting for his parents.

3. Refuses to talk about how the day went and what happened in the kindergarten.

4. The situation has not changed for the better for more than 4 weeks.

What can parents do?

1. Talk about kindergarten in a positive way

Do not scare a child with kindergarten or present him as punishment for bad behavior, opposing being at home as a reward for good. Don't talk about kindergarten with regret that you "have" to leave your child there.

Tell us about the positive aspects of the kindergarten: there are interesting activities, delicious food (at least partially), new friends, new toys, music lessons, matinees, treats, etc.

2. Send the child to the kindergarten with whom it is easier for the child to say goodbye

It is often the hardest thing for children to part with their mother, and they say goodbye to their dad or grandmother or grandfather without problems, they feel more independent. It is important not to run away from the child secretly, "throwing" him in the kindergarten. So the child feels like he was left forever. Don't say you’ll come back and pick it up in 5 minutes if you’re not.

3. Give your favorite thing with you

Now in the kindergartens they are not allowed to bring toys with them, but they may be allowed to leave them in the locker. So the child will be calmer that his favorite toy is nearby. He will put it in the closet upon arrival at the kindergarten and pick it up before leaving home. Familiar and favorite things help children feel more confident.

4. Do not pressure the child with questions

If he does not want to talk about how his day in kindergarten went, there is no need to "push" with questions. It is better later, before going to bed or during the evening inadvertently to recall the kindergarten in conversation, perhaps the baby will remember something interesting and want to tell.

Psychologists also advise not to overload the child's psyche in the evening. He needs to rest, and excessively active leisure, with entertainment, gifts, treats, swing-roundabouts, or on the contrary - activities and "development" - lead to overwork.

5. Do not reward a child for going to kindergarten

And also do not compensate for your guilt with gifts for taking your child to kindergarten. If the baby gets used to such "motivation", then it will be very difficult to get rid of it later, and it will be easy to manipulate you.

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