Teenagers are almost adults and must be reckoned with. Therefore, the ruffling of phrases must be thrown out of the lexicon long before the children grow up.
Here are 5 phrases that offend teens that you shouldn't say.
1. In my house...
This is still your common home. Yes, your investment of energy and money is much greater, but you teach your child to do housework? So this is his house too? If you emphasize that the house is yours and the rules are yours, then the teenager feels superfluous, unnecessary, homeless.
2. Who cares what you want
Such disregard for the desires and needs of the teens cannot go unnoticed. This is very insulting, once again proves to the child his uselessness in the family.
3. It's too early for you to make decisions
When is it not early? When will he graduate from school and move out of the house to a new, unfamiliar world? It would be nice by that time to already be able to make decisions and take responsibility for their lives. A child at any age should be able to make a decision. And, yes, learn from your mistakes.
4. In the first place - study
Here you are going against nature. A normal teenager will never have school first. And if it does not work at all to combine the acquisition of knowledge with communication with friends or lovers, then the system of motivation for learning is not built correctly.5. Because I said so)
Do you mentally understand that this is not an argument? If you have requirements for a child, especially a teenager, they should be aggravated. And he will never take a ban for the sake of a ban correctly. He will only understand that his opinion in this house is worthless. It will definitely not improve your relationship.
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