All parents make at least some of these mistakes.
We tell you about the wrong actions that cannot be repeated.
1. Crowds of relatives
In the first month after birth, the baby is very sensitive to all infections and irritants. Yes, it is partially protected by maternal immunity, but it is not a panacea and not a 100% guarantee of health.
The desire of relatives to come to see the baby is understandable, but this should not be massive and loud. It is enough that for the first couple of months only the closest ones - grandmothers and grandfathers - visit him, and in the first month it is even worth wearing protective masks so as not to transmit any virus to the child.
And such precautions, believe me, are not superfluous. Even an ordinary SARS in an infant can easily develop into pneumonia, and the last thing you want after the hospital is to go back to the hospital and treat the newborn with antibiotics.
2. Overheating and hypothermia of the child
More often, of course, we are talking about overheating, because they try to wrap a newborn in a suit, hat and socks at any air temperature. But it is worth turning on the logic and understand that at +18 and above, he definitely does not need a hat (you don’t need it?), And at +22 you can safely undress to a diaper.
Do not be afraid of cool palms and legs - they are like that for all children, this is normal, because the child's heat exchange is still being established. But no, he is not cold.
At the same time, you should not walk with a stroller in the hot season under the open sun. The baby can get burned from the sun's rays, and if the stroller is covered with something, then severe overheating and lack of fresh air. From 11 to 16, it is better to walk as much as possible in the shade and air freely to come to the child.3. Distorted words
The baby does not yet know how to speak, but memorizes combinations of sounds - that is, words. And if you constantly lisp and distort your speech, then the child does not learn the usual normal words. The easier you are and the more usual you speak to him, the faster he will perceive and repeat normal and ordinary speech.
Of course, you can't do without lisping at all - after all, children are so cute. However, this should not be the basis of your communication, even with the smallest baby.
4. Blind repetition of the experience of elders
Young parents often fall into confusion after the appearance of a baby, even if before that they read clever books and "prepared" in every possible way. And here grandmothers come to the rescue - with their experience and advice. And, of course, with their experience and authority, they "crush" any attempts of young mothers and fathers to raise a child in their own way.
But it is important to remember that you cannot blindly follow the advice on the development, upbringing, nutrition, health of the baby, which were relevant for our mothers and grandmothers several decades ago.
Pediatrics, pedagogy have stepped forward, the whole world has stepped forward - and now it knows for sure that a woman does not need to express her breasts to the last drop after each feeding. And you can feed off the clock. And bathe at 30 degrees. And carry on handles as much as you need, without letting you "cry".In general, it is important to quickly recover from the shock that you have become parents, turn on independence and logic, connect all previously acquired knowledge (and continue to receive new ones) and seek advice from the older generation only in extreme case.
5. Anxiety
It is difficult to stay calm when you have a whole new person in front of you, for whose life, health and safety you are responsible 24/7 for the next 18 years. Everything is incomprehensible, everything is new, everything is alarming, unusual, and life has turned upside down.
But the child perfectly captures this state of the parents - and he himself becomes anxious, whiny, capricious. And the more you pass it to each other with shaking hands, panicking, why he is crying, the more he will cry, because he receives from you a charge of nervousness, and not calmness and confidence.
First, adjust your breathing. If you breathe calmly, evenly, deeply, then your pulse slows down, the baby quickly takes over, he slows down his breathing and calms down. Speak with him confidently, do not make chaotic movements - and certainly do not quarrel with each other and do not raise your voice.
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