Adolescence, with its swings and hormonal mood is no longer a child but not yet an adult child of a real challenge both for parents and for the adolescent himself. And not to spoil relations with a loved child and not to lose his trust, you should not make common mistakes adults in a relationship with a teenager.
The period of "emotional outburst" difficult for parents and children. Therefore, sometimes quite difficult to find an approach to their upbringing, and my mom and dad did not know how to behave properly with your teen. Unified parenting advice teen, suitable for all situations does not exist, but bypass the "sharp corners "in relations with the grown-up child can be, if not to make mistakes in dealing with him and his education.
5 common mistakes parents in a relationship with a teenager
1. Parents pay a little time communicating with teenager
Often, adults perceive detachment and aggression teenager as an unwillingness to communicate and spend time together. In fact, this behavior may just be the result of lack of attention from parents. Of course, grown-child should be given more opportunities to exercise their autonomy and independence. But also joint trips to the cinema, leisure and travel will improve your relationship with your child and do not give to lose emotional contact.
2. Parents allow the child too much
You should not severely limit the freedom of a teenager. However, he still not old enough to fully bear the responsibility and give a report to their deeds and actions. Discipline is very important for a teenager, even he was not particularly pleased her.
3. Parents are too spoiled child, and put his interests above their
All parents want to give their child more than they had in their childhood. This desire is justified, provided that you do not indulge any whim of the child. If you perform any of its whims, The result may be faced with ingratitude and aggression on the part of Chad. It is better to spend time together fun, roller skating or go to the movies.
4. Parents underestimate the teenager
Often a child wants to take the initiative and do something, for instance, to cook dinner for the whole family or earn your first moneyFor example, try to sell ice cream in the park. But usually this initiative meets with excuses and even prohibitions on the part of the parents, and the main argument - it's "You're still small!", "Not yet!" Or "You can not!" In eventually the child perceives your words as a lack of confidence in its strength and capabilities, it is a rose, it is lack of initiative, and the attitudes of parents with a child "bursting at the seams. "
If your child is to strive for self-reliance and development, there is nothing reprehensible. Do not interfere with it, and take a supervisory position.
5. Parents rarely talk to your child about feelings
Remember, as you each morning and evening to kiss her beloved baby with the words "I love you!" But what has changed since then? The child grew up, but it still also need your tenderness, affection and recognition that you love him no matter what. Talk to your child about their tender feelings for him, even if it meets your words ridicule or aggression. This is due to the fact that he no longer believes that, as far as he is dear to you. But soon it will pass, and the relationship with the child will become more intimate and confidential.
You will also be useful to know, what to do if you are faced with the theft of a teenager.
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