7 most common mistakes in raising girls

Modern approaches to education children are encouraged to give up what was previously considered normal and natural. The world has changed, women have the right and the opportunity to vote - and this voice says that the imposed stereotypes were wrong.

The girl does not need, for example, to teach obedience and silence, on the contrary - it is necessary to encourage her to show her individuality, personality. There is no need to instill in her the idea that the main task is to get married successfully and take her place in the kitchen.

What other mistakes do parents still make when raising their daughters?

1. Too strict upbringing

Constant rigor will not protect your daughter from mistakes she can make in life. Moreover, the children of strict parents are better able to lie and get out, still doing their own thing.

Also, excessive severity robs your relationship with your daughter of trust. If she has problems, she will never come to you for help, and in adolescence it is fraught with tragedies.

Both girls and boys need parental attention, care, tenderness and unconditional love and acceptance.

2. Hyper-care

Girls are even more "shaken" than boys: constant calls with checks, gadgets with location tracking, control of appearance, etc.

Taking care of safety is certainly good. But first, you need to establish a relationship with the girl in which she does not want to get into a dangerous situation just for your evil or to prove her independence.

Do not forget that from a very early age, your child should be able to make decisions and make choices, at least within the boundaries set by you.

3. Physical punishment

Unfortunately, they are still used in many families. Argument: "I was beaten and nothing." When a person is beaten, especially if adults beat a child who depends on them and cannot stand up for himself - this is not normal in any case.

A child may be afraid, become withdrawn and downtrodden - but is this your goal as a parent and educator? The girl may become docile, but this will only be an external cover to protect herself from the beatings.

But what kind of revenge a grown-up child is capable of, who has been beaten and humiliated - look in the crime news bulletins.

4. Negative father image

This often happens in single-parent families: mothers express to their daughters all their grievances, all their anger at the father, who either drank, or walked, or abandoned, or something else. Mom in a difficult life situation is understandable. But the constant "winding up" of the child creates psychological trauma.

It's just that the absence of a father does not traumatize the girl as much as the stereotypes suggested by her mother that “all men are like this” or that the girl is “all her father”, which means that she is somehow bad.

It is not my daughter's fault that her father is not around. And it is this idea that she needs to convey in order to grow a harmonious personality with normal self-esteem.

5. Distrust of men

Yes, girls need to be careful when dealing with the opposite sex. But it is unnecessary to suggest that any suitor will surely "drown her and leave her", he "only needs one thing". As a result, she will expect only such behavior from men - and lo and behold - that is how everyone around her will turn out to be.

Men are not aggressors, traitors, traitors, or rapists by default. There are some among them - but not all of them. There is no need to drive paranoia into your daughter's head so that she cannot later build a healthy and serious relationship.

6. Mom friend

Some mothers try to become friends with their teenage daughters so that they can trust them more, share their thoughts and plans, etc. Simply put - to make it easier to control.

But a girl - even a teenager - still needs a responsible adult nearby, and not just a friend. Therefore, at this age, more than ever, you will be required to balance between strictness and benevolence: in order not to lose confidence, but also not to let everything take its course.

It is important to have a good conversation with a teenager (not to arrange an interrogation and not be limited to "ate? I've done my homework?"). Do not discount the feelings of your daughter - what seems stupid to you is very serious for her. And the phrase "the main thing is study, and the boys and girlfriends later" - it's like closing the door between you.

7. Mandatory settings

The task of the parents is to help the child decide what he wants in life, but not to press and not give a ready-made plan. Choose a profession for a child, instill the idea of ​​compulsory marriage and have children, choose a hobby for a daughter, hobbies, social circle - all this prevents her from independently determining her desires and starting to live her own life.

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