How to avoid the older child's jealousy of the younger

To avoid childhood jealousy as much as possible, you need to prepare an older child for the appearance of a younger one at the stage of your pregnancy.

Here are some proven life hacks on how to do it.

Talk about the unborn child

When mom has a noticeable tummy, it's time to regularly tell the elder that a brother or sister will soon appear.

If you have chosen a name - call the future baby by name. Show the ultrasound scans, let the elder touch your belly while the younger pushes from the inside.

Tell that at first the baby will be very small and helpless, he will need the help of all family members, including a brother / sister. He will love everyone, but at first he will not even be able to smile, and soon it will be interesting to play with him.

You can show videos with very young children, practice on toy dolls, respect for the baby.

Buy baby things together

Take the older child with you to the store to choose things for the younger one together, let him choose something himself, get advice and listen to his opinion.

Although it is common for younger children to inherit rattles and other toys from older children, it is best to buy a few new toys. The fewer things the elder has to share with the younger, the less jealousy there will be.

Cardinal changes - strictly before childbirth

If before the birth the older child slept with you, and now he was moved to a separate bed or even a separate room, then jealousy and scandals cannot be avoided.

Going to the kindergarten, moving, moving to a separate bed and room, weaning from breasts - all this should not be at the same time as a new family member appears. Otherwise, the older child from jealousy and stress will become simply unbearable and uncontrollable.

Gift from a newborn

Returning from the hospital, bring your older child a new interesting toy. This will supposedly be a gift from the kid.

But children are often imbued with sympathy for those who come to them with gifts.

More mom's attention to the elder

Often mothers get lost: how to pay more attention to an elder, if you need to be with a newborn around the clock?

While the baby is sleeping (and he almost always sleeps, with light and noise) - use this time to play and read with the older child. When a newborn is awake, it can be laid side by side and played together.

Justice above all

Right is not the one who is less, but the one who is right. The younger ones should not take toys out of their hands in the same way as the older ones. And the older one should not offend the same as the younger.

Parents should always be arbiters and teach their children fairness. At the same time, of course, love and pity everyone, even if one of the children is wrong.

If the whole family rushes to scold the elder, who offends the younger, this will only aggravate the situation. Anyone will regret the offended, but the mother must defend the elder, show that she loves him in any case, and for this one does not need to behave badly.

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