Very often, due to the wrong attitude towards their child, parents turn into the worst enemies.
First, let's look at the biggest mistakes parents can make when communicating with their children.
Suppression method
Most often, parents use this method to regain lost authority. At the slightest deviation child behavior from normal, parents apply moral or physical punishment. They do not try to find the cause, since they consider it their main task to destroy its consequences. When talking with a child, his opinion is not taken into account at all, so you should know for sure that this method of upbringing will not work to restore trust and authority.
Method of pedantry
This method is very similar to the method of suppression, it is just that the parents do not deliberately do everything to form in the child the skills of weak-willed submission.
In the method of pedantry, any opinion of the child is not taken into account, but the child must obey any parental orders with 100% accuracy.
Why do parents do this? They want to prove their superiority, or simply instruct the child on the right path, because they think that he will not do this on his own. But it's a pity, you still won't achieve the desired result, your child will not respect you and love you, you will simply break his character and it will be difficult for him to take his place in society.
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Method of edification
Hard methods are not used in the implementation of this method. Parents believe that the only parenting method is long-term conversations. Think back to yourself as a child, how you felt when your parents had such conversations. Let these memories discourage the desire to use this method of education.
The method of showing love
This parenting method is accompanied by the manifestation of excessive love and the expectation of receiving the same in return. This approach will increase the child's protest, and you will not achieve the desired result.
Parent position method
This method of education is inherent in parents who occupy high positions. You will not be able to deserve your child, since it does not matter to him at all what your profession is and who you work with. You can educate his child, who gets used to his position and becomes a "major". And when he grows up, his opinion will change, and he will simply be ashamed of you.
Method of kindness
This method implies gentle parenting, thanks to which the parents always give in to the child. But this method is not very promising, and you will not gain authority. Your child will sit on your head and dangle their legs.
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Bribery method
Most parents use this parenting method. When you persuade your child to do something, you offer him in return, for example, a gift. As a result, you will not earn credibility, and your child will know perfectly well that his "services" can be sold.
How do you get credibility?
1. Be yourself, do not put on plays in front of your child.
2. You must know that trust is the foundation of all relationships. Trust and you will feel it in return.
3. Remember that everyone is capable of making mistakes, and your child is no exception. If you allow him to do this, then he will certainly appreciate your advice.
4. Punishment is not always a great parenting method. It is best to calmly talk with the child and discuss all the nuances and listen to all the arguments.
5. Be an example for your child in everything and always.
6. Learn to ask for forgiveness and forgive, then your child will do it.
7. Take an active part in the life of your child, take an interest in his life, and then you will earn both authority and love.
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