5 beginnings of young mothers, from which nothing will definitely come of

Based on social media, modern mothers they don't spend a day the same: traveling, shopping, working, learning languages, going to various courses, to the gym, dancing, to restaurants, meet friends, prepare a multi-course dinner for the family - and all this will certainly be with the child, or even two or three.

And looking at this ideal image on the social network, many, of course, want to bring their lives closer to this beautiful picture. But here are 5 common and potentially good beginnings for young mothers that are doomed to fail.

1. Bring children to meet friends in a cafe

According to the law of meanness, your children, who are ready to watch cartoons at home for hours or who adore all kinds of playrooms, will not want to sit quietly or be in the children's room of a cafe on this very day. And they will not want to go to a cafe at all, and then they will not want to leave, they will ask a million questions and constantly pull you somewhere. And they won't like anything on the menu, but they will pull everything from your plate.

If you came with a baby, he will become especially demanding, he will constantly hang on his chest, dirty diapers and mope. We do not urge mothers to stay at home, however, you yourself will soon see that going with a small child to a cafe is not a rest, and you will not have time to communicate with friends. It is better to settle down in a comfortable home environment, where both guests and children, and you will have more room for "maneuvers".

2. Educate yourself while walking with a stroller

It would seem, why waste 2-3-4 hours with a stroller and a sleeping child, if at this time you can improve your English, master a new profession and take a course from a business guru. However, thoughtfully reading something from a smartphone screen on the go is hard (and dangerous). And if you stop and sit on a bench, then the child with a high probability will wake up and scream.

And you can only look at your phone / book or sit on a bench during warm and dry seasons. That is, you will read part of the book in September - and continue at the end of April, which is not very productive.

Audio courses and audiobooks are also not suitable for everyone. Someone is phoned by relatives and girlfriends, someone simply does not perceive information by ear.

In general, a child's sleep can fluctuate in duration and depth from day to day, and learning will be constantly interrupted in one way or another. And then another breakdown will completely force you to abandon your venture.

3. Healthy food

Making the bulk of your diet right is possible. But I don't want to. Simply gnawing on a carrot or apple when you are under stress all day is thankless. But a young mother has no time to cook full-fledged healthy meals, besides, she often has neither the strength nor the desire. If you are also breastfeeding, then you should definitely not put yourself on a menu of broccoli, zucchini and buckwheat, because they are unlikely to add strength and good mood to you.

To cope with feelings of increased anxiety or depression, you may need a cake, or more than one. And a large portion of fast food, when at last my husband and I escaped from the house, and left the baby to grandmother. The main thing is to take it calmly and not to scold yourself, to seek a balance between "wanting" and "useful".

4. Do fitness at home

Surely, when you were pregnant, you imagined that a baby would be born, and in 2-3 weeks you would take up fitness. And you will raise and lower the child like a dumbbell, or he will be next to you on the yoga mat, and after a year and a half, he will start repeating the movements behind you. In general, forget.

If the child is awake, he will not let you study. He will cry, mope, ask for pens, crawl away, climb into dangerous places - you may not even get to the stage of changing into sportswear. But you need to engage in at least 30-40 minutes, plus a warm-up and a cool-down, plus a shower - the baby will not have enough patience for all this.

And if he sleeps, you will also have no time for fitness. At least so as not to make noise and wake him up inadvertently. But, most likely, you simply will not have the strength to exercise, you just want to have a humanly rest in silence, drink coffee or tea, go to the toilet, do a bunch of household chores.

5. Invite a manicure and pedicure master to your house

If your child is under 4-5 years old, do not even hope that he will leave you alone while the master tidies up your nails. Even the calmest children become abruptly demanding and unbearable. And certainly the time of the manicure will coincide with sitting on a pot, painting on the walls, fights between children and other joys of mother's everyday life.

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