Aggressive children can be seen immediately. They fight, beat peers and sometimes brandishing and adults. The first reaction of the aggressive child to any strange situation - a flash of aggression, quick and ill-conceived. These children are the biggest cause of complaints from teachers and educators, it is difficult to hold back his emotions. Difficulties with managing emotions interfere with establishing relationships with others.
And at the same time, if you think about the aggressive child is very open, all that comes with it internally, is immediately reflected in his behavior. Much more dangerous than other aggressive - internal. In psychology, this is called a passive-aggressive behavior.
Externally, such a child is no different from most other children, he might well learn and behave properly. He avoids conflicts and it is often considered a model of diplomacy and good behavior. These children "Excellence in everything".
But what happens inside of them? How they behave when they meet the aggression in your address? From time to time we all get in the address aggressive promises, hardly anyone could boast that he had never met with aggression.
Such a child to give the aggression in your address, as if it accumulates, it is not reflected in the external behavior. Figuratively speaking, he collects aggression with "backpack", each time experiencing internal resentment, irritation and anger when dealing with aggression in your address. Feelings are not expressed outwardly, they are blocked at the exit, hitting the inside aggression of the owner of these feelings.
As a result, the external behavior and inner well-being of the child is so different that you might think that these are two different people. Going through life with a brim full of "backpack" grievances unspoken claims, irritation and anger is very difficult. This causes the strongest emotional discomfort and anxiety.
What consequences does unexpressed internal aggression?
The accumulated aggression can reach the peak, after which there is a strong "emotional outburst". Such situations greatly deplete the child emotionally, it is a big burden on the child's psyche. There is a risk of psychosomatic disorders, ie diseases caused by psychological factors.
Internal aggression is a strong distrust of people.
Such children is very difficult to establish friendly relations, they keep their distance because do not trust their peers and adults. At school age, aggression can be expressed in the form of stinging remarks, sarcasm, banter over others, which greatly complicates the relationship with the people.
How to help your child, if you see that his emotions are not expressed?
It is very important to help the child find the way by which he will be able to express their aggression. Often emotions are blocked, if a family has a ban on the expression of negative emotions. Therefore, we should start with the removal of the ban, as if to allow the child to express negative, emphasizing that all emotions are normal.
Help your child to understand what was happening to him, what emotions he feels, pronouncing them. Play with your child in active play to help throw out strong emotions.
Express aggression can be through working with the body. Sports section will help your child feel better and throw out the emotions. More often talk with your child about what he is worried about the domestic and intimate. Try to reduce criticism of the child, emphasize its strengths, get something for which you can sincerely praise the child.
