By about 4 years of age, a child is already able to control his emotions and not express them with plaintive whine.
These are normal needs, and parents of a aching child first need to identify this need and, if possible, satisfy it in order to avoid further whining.
But if the reasons for whining are understandable and understandable, then the very way of delivering information often drives parents out of themselves. In fact, tell the child the same thing, but in the usual tone, and this is no longer whining, but a message about discomfort for any reason.
How to wean a child from whining?
1. Do not be angry. With a smile and maximum calmness, say: “You have such a whiny voice that I cannot make out what you are saying. Please say the same, but in the voice of an adult child. "
2. If the child continues to whine, place your hand to his ear and repeat that your ears cannot hear what he is saying while he does it in this tone.
3. If, after two repetitions, the child continues to whine, shrug your shoulders in disbelief and turn away.
4. When your toddler has stopped whining, praise him for speaking to you in the voice of an adult.
5. If the child hasn't stopped whining, and his whimpering has turned into crying, tell him: “I really want to hear you, but I can't until you speak in the voice of a big boy (girl). My ears need your help. "6. Be consistent. Both parents of the baby, as well as the closest relatives who often come into contact with him, should adhere to the same position and respond in the same way to the child's whining.
7. Stay calm in any situation. If your child notices that you are reacting emotionally to their whining, they will definitely repeat this trick many more times.
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