Sasha is 30 years old. She cannot find herself in this life at all. She did not receive a good education, did not find female happiness and the happiness of motherhood. She is constantly angry and nervous, looks not at people with apprehension, and somehow miraculously wandered into a psychotherapist.
Sasha looked 40 years old, but according to documents she was only 30. Of course, the lack of makeup on her face did not mean that she was not looking after herself, but the hemp of her eyebrows and dry skin, as well as unwashed hair tied in a careless bun, spoke volumes. She didn't care about herself and what they thought of her.
The woman began her conversation with the specialist by blaming her own mother for all her problems. And only after that, Tatyana Ivanovna managed to somehow hear the story of a woman's life.
As a child, Sasha was brought up strictly. Dad was almost always at work, mom sometimes worked part-time, but most of the time she spent at home with Sasha and everything on the farm. She was a strict mother, very demanding about her daughter's academic performance. If in the elementary grades Sasha was missing almost one A, then from the fifth she started having problems with her studies, and mom scolded and punished hard for every triple, she didn't even like when her daughter got fours. Sasha constantly heard phrases: "What will grow out of you?", "You have no goals in life!", "You will work as a cleaner!" And it seems that this was not a gripe, but programming her for a poor, lousy life.
Sasha walked only in the summer, after school, while her classmates played in the yard, her mother forced her to stay at home or do something about the house. But Sasha did not want to, she wanted to see her friends, she cried quietly in her room, but did not show it. And there was no talk of meeting the boys at all. The child lived only for home and school.
As for the circles and sections, everything was also difficult. Something ended too late, and the mother did not like that her daughter was late "wandering" down the street. And she was skeptical about sports, and set up her daughter the same way.
Then, closer to the final grades, all classmates, in order to improve their knowledge, began to use the services of tutors. But Sasha's mother was skeptical about this too, and forced her daughter to figure out everything on her own and "gnaw the granite of science." And, of course, I managed to pass the exams at the very least, but there was no question of entering a good university. Firstly, Sasha was not sure of her knowledge, and secondly, her mother did not want to spend a lot of money on her daughter's education. She kept repeating that she had achieved everything herself, and that her parents did not help her, which means that Sasha could herself. But Sasha entered the place where they took everyone, and where they did not give special knowledge, but only a crust that you were not a fool.
Now what? Sasha cannot find a good job. Her health is weak, and she looks 10 years older than herself. She does not know how to communicate with men. She had one boyfriend, apparently loved her sincerely, once he lasted two years, but he eventually ran away from the inadequate Sasha. And Sasha also blames her mother for this, because she always avoided topics about men and did not allow her daughter to meet boys.
Even the specialist simply did not know how to help this unfortunate woman. And is she so unhappy, since she simply dropped her hands in childhood, and did only what her mother tells her? It's time to forget about your childhood claims against parents, and start making decisions on your own. Sasha's mother died two years ago, and exactly the same number of women simply do not understand how to live. After all, along with her mother, an adviser disappeared from her life, who gave her a kick in a certain direction, even in the one in which Sasha did not want.
But if you look at families in which everything was the opposite... Well, the parents did not really follow the academic performance of children, they walked all day, disappeared in circles and sessions, early began to meet with the opposite sex. And after all, among these, there are also unsuccessful sad sorrows who blame their parents for everything! They reproach their moms and dads for their poor studies, as well as the fact that they allowed to leave college or agreed to the wedding of children at an early age.
So, who is really to blame? Why do children always blame their parents? Maybe you just need to stop looking back at your past and look ahead. Start making decisions more boldly and independently. And you just need to take care of your parents, forget all your grievances, and help them. Because they deserve it!
Mom... Whatever mom was, she gave you life. Nobody explained to her how to educate you correctly. You grew up and she grew up next to you like a mother. She, of course, worried about you, cried, did not know what to do. She didn't know what to do - to let you go for a walk or not to let you wander through the streets, scold you for triplets, or give up and be less strict. And now we have become parents, we are so confident that our children get everything1 We are sure that we are trying so hard for them, and that they will be grateful to us for it. What if they won't?
Do you believe in boomerang? So maybe you shouldn't run it in the direction of your parents, so as not to get him back on the back of the head from your own children? Are the parents of the heroine of the story to blame for her problems, and are your parents to blame for your problems? What do you think?
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