Unlucky, so unlucky? Do you constantly come across the wrong men, wrong, unable to give you a feeling of security, inspiration, love? And you fall in love with them, as luck would have it? Well, why is it so unfair? It turns out there are reasons for that!
Reasons Why You Fall In Love With The Wrong People
You fall in love not with people, but with attention
As it turned out, it doesn't really matter to you what kind of person is next to you. The main thing is that he likes you, so that he can give you his attention, so that you can feel attractive next to him. You don't care about your feelings, it is important what he feels. All this is simply because you so want to be at least for someone desired, the only one, necessary. You just want to be an attractive charming woman who, like in a movie, everyone wants. And it turns out that you do not care at all with whom to be near, as long as with someone. It is important that you have your admirer next to you, with whom you feel yourself most.
You have very low standards
You don't value yourself at all. As soon as someone answers your call or message, you immediately begin to think that you have found your destiny. And you don't care that there was no "chemistry" that they talk about in the movies. You don't care that you and the man have nothing in common. As soon as you begin to feel that he treats you well, in principle, you begin to feel happy, like you hit the jackpot. You are probably just so used to being mistreated that you don’t realize that your standards are very low.
You don't like the relationship so much as the chase process.
You like to flirt, flirt, perhaps achieve and conquer. You really like to interest a man. It turns out that a man for you is like an object that you want to interest. And, as soon as you achieve your goal, you suddenly realize that the relationship with this person is not interesting, and the man himself is somehow wrong. You have unrealistic expectations, you envisioned the person as completely different. And you liked him, but in fact he turned out to be completely different.
You follow what you think, what you want, not what you really want.
You choose someone who looks good formally as your partner. He is cute, hardworking, attentive, speaks correctly, which is why you give him a chance. All just because you are very afraid of loneliness, and cling to "horrible". Or maybe you are afraid that you will be judged and pitied by those around you, because you do not have a soul mate, like the rest?
You yourself have no idea what you want
It seems to you that you already know everything perfectly and that you have decided on everything. But you didn't even think about it! You did not bother to spend your strength, time and energy to find out to the end what kind of person you need.
You feel pressured to find a partner urgently
Years go by - you are alone. All your friends have found happiness - you are alone. All relatives insist that it's time for you to get married. All work colleagues are trying to set you up with at least someone. It seems that everyone around you as soon as possible wants to marry you, you feel a strong pressure, so you start meeting with someone who got in your way.
You know, to be picky, to refuse the attention of a man, not to build a relationship because you don't like the person - that's okay! Better to think about who can really make you a happy woman!
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