Once I raised the problem of low self-esteem on my channel. I was sad to read the comments of readers, many girls and women admitted that their assessment of themselves leaves much to be desired. There were showered questions on how to raise it, whether it is possible to do this without a psychologist. Of course, the advice of a competent specialist makes this task easier. But at one time I was able to cope myself, so I want to tell you about what helped me. Even now, it happens that I get carried away in different directions, but in general I perceive myself adequately and do not consider myself worse than others. And there was a time when I counted with 100% certainty.
Ideally, it is good to work out this topic with a psychologist, they are able to pull out many of our ulterior motives and reasons. Indeed, sometimes it is convenient for us to occupy one or another position, but we do not always understand this. We sincerely consider ourselves unhappy because of something, but as you dig, it turns out that it is easier for us.
Think why you are comfortable this way
In some moments it is easier to give up on yourself than to do something towards change. It is sometimes helpful to accept this fact. For a start, just accept, and then think about what you can do about it.
Alena considers herself ugly and believes that it makes no sense to try a lot, because it will not help much. Can afford to walk with greasy hair or not to dye overgrown roots for 3 months. Does not paint for work. She is overeating on fried potatoes and her favorite McDonald's. And what, it is quite convenient. You don't have to get up early to get beauty, you don't have to deny yourself a tasty treat... What if accept this factand just start doing? Master the makeup minimum, tidy up your hair? And then take a closer look and understand hthen it turns out everything is not so bad with the appearance.
My dear women, never DARE to consider yourself ugly!
Stop comparing yourself to someone else.
A woman will always find someone to compare herself with and lose. But what to hide, I myself sin this periodically. There will always be someone who is smarter, stronger, richer, and so on in the moments that are important to you. In our age of the total popularization of social networks and beautiful pictures of life, it is very easy to get into this swamp.
Do not forget that there are filters and retouching, as well as good shots and angles. Taking some photos for the blog, I can see how it works. Somewhere I have a chiseled face and beautiful facial features, but somewhere I have a double chin and one eye, like a bruised one. Which photo will I post? Well, behind a beautiful picture of a gorgeous bouquet from a loved one, anything can stand, including domestic violence.
Psychologists advise us to compare ourselves with ourselves. Last year you knew nothing but the alphabet and "London is the capital of Great Britain", and this year you are already watching films in English? Or maybe 3 months ago even your scrambled eggs burned, but now you know how to make such a duck with sauce that you can eat your mind? Sit down and think.
The only thing that I can separately note here, consider the periods in your life. And if you're going through hard times right now, don't try to scold yourself for a decrease in productivity or temporary idleness. Don't drown yourself! Let yourself get through it the way you are most comfortable.
Remove toxic people from your life
Why do you need a girlfriend who constantly strives to bite you more painfully? Sometimes it's very helpful to change your social circle. True, it turns out to be done not always, because sometimes a colleague, boss or even a relative acts as such a pest. Whenever possible, fight back. Each situation has its own weapon, somewhere it is an ignore, somewhere a tough answer. But you need to understand for yourself one point that will help you not to get upset. All people who undermine your faith in yourself do it not because something is wrong with you, but because of their internal problems and cockroaches.
In my life there was a friend who maniacally wanted to get married, but for some reason all the men ran away. The girl was good, economic, family, and cheerful. We are very mentally friendly until the moment I met my future husband. But I never aspired to get married and did not plan to do this until I was 30. And then her dream came true. Each of our meetings, she exclaimed how much I lost weight, knowing that I was complex because of my thinness. I'll tell you, my weight remained the same. Then I was upset, and then I understood her and I wanted to feel sorry for her.
Girls, love yourself! Subscribe to my channel and on my instagram, we will learn together to accept ourselves and support each other in this difficult period for all.
