Parents often complain that their child is aggressive, selfish, thinking that he was reckless or vice versa that it does not work. This stems from improper upbringing and self-esteem. How to find a middle ground?
If parents are thinking and reading, problems inchildIt will be much less. Because, if you look in the child psychology: in every age, self-esteem own characteristics and laws. Another thing, if the parents are so basic, that did not listen to the opinion of teachers and psychologists. And this, of course, in vain! After all, if you do not work out their parenting mistakes, then the child would not be happy either in childhood or later will not be successful in adult life.
Self-assessment of preschooler
If the baby is too high self-esteem, it will attempt to draw attention to themselves, require conflict, trying to manage all around, for the rights for himself, always and everywhere.
Inflated self-esteem for preschoolers - is the norm. Age, good, quality standards, which do not need to fight.
Errors parents. Parents on the other hand put the border, teach a child to respect them.
Low self-esteem among preschoolers - it is a problem, because with age, it usually does not grow itself, like the tail of a lizard, but rather the opposite. Preschool children with low self-esteem will be anxious, unsure of himself, touchy and mistrustful.
Every time I try to captivate the parents than the child-he: excuses, fear of failure.
How should I bring up. Expand emotional horizons child to understand how it is - to listen to the opinion of others, respect their feelings and desires. But in any case, do not drown his self-esteem - believe it and without your efforts will fail later, let him enjoy the feeling that "I am the best, the strongest and the most beautiful."
Self-evaluation in preschool and school children: what is the difference / istockphoto.com
The causes of low self-esteem in preschoolers
- Constant criticism from parents or other significant adults.
- Lack of parental care (in particular, the lack of time together, vacation, weekend).
- Example adult-loser before the eyes (for example, father, sitting on the couch all day, and my mother, who constantly reproaches her husband).
- Frequent comparisons with other children, to demonstrate their success and failures of the opposition, or "bad behavior" of the child. Comparison with the brothers and sisters makes the situation worse.
How to maintain self-esteem, if it is too low
- Do not be afraid to praise, support, encourage and approve
- Praise for action: look interesting in each figure, the achievements in every action.
- Important words should be: I believe you're right, I am sure you will succeed.
- You should not criticize the person in general. Criticism of the actions it is possible to leave. But 1 criticism must not forget to 5 times to praise the child.
- Get rid of the Soviet shortcuts: whiner, fool, crybaby, slut, slut.
- We admire all that reached the child, whether riding a scooter, build Lego, weaving baubles.
- It is necessary to support any hobby kid: ride a race, we return to the circle of Lego design, we try to sell baubles in instagrame. In this way, we show the child that believe in him, that what he was doing and what he is successful, interesting.
- Let's order. Many, but small: at home, on the farm, on forces and mood. Generally, children at this age are very fond of adults do: throw out the garbage, cut vegetables, wash the floors, repair the chair, twisting a screwdriver bolt. Every time say thanks, praise, telling the evening the Pope loudly about how you presented the golden child of God!
How to test self-esteem preschool and school children
The easiest and most common test - "Ladder". Draw on a blank sheet of paper staircase of 7 steps or ask the child to do so.
Tell your child that on the top rung are the best kids in the middle (show 2-3) - good kids, lower (4-5) - neither bad nor good, and the last, the lower steps (6-7) for the bad children.
Ask a question: on what step would you put yourself? Why?
Self-evaluation in preschool and school children: what is the difference / istockphoto.com
Results:
- 1 step - high self-esteem (remember that this is the age limit for preschool children, but not students).
- 2 - slightly overestimated (even more so normal for preschoolers).
- 3 - adequate self-esteem (pat on the head and himself, and child).
- 4 - slightly underestimated (adjust education).
- 5, 6 - low self-esteem (just in case swipe test again in a few days, to avoid situational decline - had a row with her mother, got into a fight on the street, in trouble school / kindergarten).
- 7 - critically low self-esteem (consult with a psychologist).
It can also be used to test methodology "Name": Offer to come up with a name for himself, which he would like to have, or may leave of their own, if you want.
- Ask what you like in the new, or its name. Disclaimer its own name indicates low self-esteem and dissatisfaction with himself and confident statement that my name is the best evidence to the contrary.
Also you will be interested to read this: 6 great tips, how to love themselves and raise self-esteem
