Children age crisis - this is not fiction psychologists, and the harsh reality for almost every parent. How to respond to the children's tantrums, how to deal with inappropriate and strange behavior of the child?
Even yesterday, kind and affectionate child turned into a small prickly hedgehog, who all said a categorical "No" or snaps? Congratulations, your child age crisis and from infancy to adolescence, they will be as much as 5. What are the main psychological characteristics of children of crises and how to properly conduct the parents - all this in our article.
The crisis of the newborn.Birth of a child - it's a kind of crisis, because he was in a short time to adapt to a completely different life in a strange world. The child must get used to breathing new food, sound, light, space that surrounds it. adaptation period lasts for about 2 months, and when the baby is being developed, gradually established mode because pipsqueak can already express their needs and learning to adapt to the rhythm of the family.
How to help?The first three months of the child referred to the fourth trimester of pregnancy, it's a tough time for the crumbs, and for his parents, because they also need to get used to the new person and his or her needs. Surround crumbs attention and care, give him what he needs: heat, warm mum's hands and embrace, do not be afraid to spoil it to their attention.
The crisis of one year. Baby turned one year old and he is from infancy to early childhood passes and also under stress because of its new features. This is the age when a child learns to walk, to talk, to actively learn about the world, to learn communication. All the setbacks or difficulty a child reacts to a protest and hysteria. Mom and Dad are faced with the first manifestation of the child's aggression, "felting on the floor," causeless tears. The kid learns to be independent and autonomous, all striving to make himself unaided.
How to help?It is at this time all his patience and wisdom, even with 10 attempts, but you sure this happens. During tantrums, try to distract the baby line up clear boundaries and rules in the family, then the child will be easier to overcome this difficult period. Be consistent in your actions do not punish or yell, try to explain and negotiate longer allowed to not stop the craving for independence.
The crisis of three years.it one of the most difficult crises, the child becomes unruly and disobedient, doing everything contrary to what they say, he seeks to do everything himself. At this time, the children are very stubborn and intractable, with them is absolutely impossible to negotiate and find common ground, continuous rebellion and protest.
How to help?Patience, wisdom and cunning - these three allies at this time. Do not indulge children's tantrums, or once realizing that you can achieve the desired tears, the child will do so all the time. Try to be more subtle than, for example, if the baby does not want to brush your teeth, do not scream and do not make, and offer to compete, who first run so far to the bathroom and brushed my teeth.
The crisis of seven years.This crisis is associated with going to the school, with separation from their parents, with the first experience of "adult" communication and social adaptation. The child feels like an adult, but has not yet adapted to the adult world and experiencing some difficulties. He is no longer a naive child, but not yet an adult, this imbalance can lead to mannerism, strange behavior, to the incomprehensible actions, outbursts of anger and affective behavior.
How to help? Ideally, at this time the child has some significant adult (non-family), whose opinion is authoritative for the child. It can be a teacher, a coach, a family friend. All cases that the child is now extremely important is the opinion of strangers and their evaluation.
Teens in Crisis.crisis of adolescence, perhaps the most vivid and memorable for the parents, because to deal with "adult" child sometimes difficult. He claims his rights, trying to prove his autonomy and independence and complete separation from parents, tends to loneliness and wants to seem adult. As a teenager in full raging hormones, so your teenager can be harsh, rough, emotionally unstable, rude parents leave the house, do everything in spite of - this is one of the most striking features of this period.
How to help?At this age, it is important to parents loosen their parental care and to give the child more freedom to learn to accept and respect the choice of solutions and their grown-up offspring. Do not try to suppress or break your child better support him and gently direct help to understand complex issues.
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