As a father who lives separately from her child, save the attachment and to remain an important part of his life?
1. Communicate with the child's mother. Divorce is traumatic for the child in the event that the parties parted enemies. In this case, the mother and father of the child set up against each other, all of them imbued with negative communication. Even if you have bad attitude to the former spouse - do not show this at the child and arrange with ex-wife that she did the same. Child relationships and the same road with my mother and with you. Because for the sake of the child will have to negotiate.
2. Be patient. When training at a distance, the baby's father may seem that it does not affect the process. However, it is not. When a child is rarely sees daddy - that further absorbs all his words and emotions during the meetings. Do not show when the child resentment and indignation, quietly perform their parental and financial responsibilities to take care of it.
Remember that your child is very difficult to live "in two houses" and to rebuild, moving back and forth. Because may be moods, tantrums, resentment. Your task - to firmly and quietly endure all this, no one is blaming and pouring its own resentment and anger.
3. Respect the child's unwillingness something to tell. If the child does not want to share with you how lives with his mother or with her new family - do not climb into his soul. If you establish a trust relationship with the child - he will tell you that and when it sees fit.4. Work on your emotional state. Divorce is a very heavy toll on the psyche of both sides. If you can not cope with the emotions - see a psychologist, but not "hop off" to the child and his mother. Do not turn in on themselves, do not seek comfort in alcohol or empty links, surround yourself with wise people, a healthy environment and find new interests.
5. Do whatever you can, as a father. Perhaps you do not agree with how raising a child by his mother. However, you have to respect her right to do all in their own way. If you can not agree, and make adjustments to the training, try its part to supplement it by the fact that it was missing. Do not criticize the child when his mother and her decisions. She's just like you, trying to do for the baby all he can. Show your love, sharing your knowledge and skills, do everything that depends on you.
6. If you can not speak well of his mother - silent. If your former spouse sets up a child against you or somehow spoil your life - do not do it in return. And if you can not say anything good about the child to his mother - just keep quiet. If you talk about her or her new family is bad - and the child will take it in his address, because most of the time it belongs to the same family. And in any case, not to find out the relationship with the adult child.7. Do not submit your claim to the child. If he behaves badly - do not blame the mother's education, her family history and so on. To deal with specific cases, their causes and the nature of the child. Listen to it, take it and remember, less lecturing and think of his mistakes as a valuable experience.
9. Sets its own rules and remind them. Despite the difficulties and divorce, the child must remember that in your home, there are certain rules which, naturally, may differ from the rules at home moms. Father, for his part, does not constantly make concessions and allow everything to please children.
10. Do not turn communication into a continuous celebration. The father should not be associated only with the output, gifts, sweets, the ability to break the daily routine, and so on. Is present in a child's life, and on the other days. Walk on its competition, exchange messages in social networks. Learn to communicate and interesting to spend time with the child without resorting to constant buying anything. Because his father - an example to follow, rather than a walking wallet for entertainment.You will be interested to know 5 myths about fathers, that it's time to forget.
