Usually my articles concern mainly the problems of the beautiful half of humanity. But men also know how to love, they can also have misunderstandings with the ladies, so today I want to tell you one story. More precisely, I will tell you about the lessons that one man learned who loved the part of his life that did not love him.
It hurts to be in a one-sided relationship, it is doubly painful when you understand everything but you cannot leave. Here are the lessons a man learned from this relationship.
You cannot be silent and hide your feelings
If you understand that you truly and sincerely love a woman, then confess your feelings to her. Sometimes because of some kind of shyness, fear that it is possible to ruin an already normal relationship, men are silent, and wait for the right moment to confess. But then it hurts too much.
“I had a childhood friend with whom I somehow gradually fell in love. Moreover, the love was real, sincere. And I was very afraid with my confession to destroy our warm relationship. So I waited, I waited for her to fall in love with me. I waited a month, two, then a year, then another year... I behaved naively and stupidly, if I immediately confessed everything to my friend, I could save myself from three whole years of dreams and heartache. "
Don't ignore the signs
Be alert to warning signs. If you are not in the first place for a person among other life's affairs, if he remembers you only then, when you remind yourself of yourself, if he does not remember your birthday, then don’t hope that he is you love.
“I just didn't want to believe in reality. I found excuses for everything, I always forgave and expected that someday she would understand that she loved me. I was so blinded by feelings that I thought about her day and night, dreamed, believed and hoped that we would be together. It is very painful and unpleasant to tell yourself the truth, but if you deceive yourself, it is fraught with consequences. And in the end you will be much more painful at the very end. "
Don't waste your time with those who will never love you
Living and dreaming without noticing reality is stupid. You are simply wasting time, wasting it on expectations, you all hope that the person you love will suddenly realize that he is also in love with you. This is very, very stupid!
“For a long time I did not dare to turn this chapter over, delayed the end of our communication, I didn’t want to tear what was already there, although, in principle, there was nothing. It was as if I was living in some kind of "pink" world, waiting for reciprocal feelings from a woman. I never thought before that I would ever fall in love so much. I even laughed at other men when I saw their mental anguish. And then I fell in love myself, and realized that I was sitting in a big puddle, from which I had to get out, but in which it was somehow stable and warm ”.
Love without reciprocity changes a person beyond recognition
Love without an answer radically changes a person, his goals and principles.
“I began to literally beg for her attention, strewn her with hundreds of messages and calls, waited for her calls for hours, upon meeting gazed into my eyes, I waited for her to react to me as a man, when she realizes that I love her all life. It didn't sound like me at all, I was just blinded by my love. And only when my friend announced that she had a boyfriend, I suddenly sobered! It hurt, but I suddenly looked at it all from the outside. "
Recovering from a blow and finding happiness with another person is possible
The most important thing is to stop in time and realize that you need to live on. Everyone makes mistakes, and it's important to be able to deal with their consequences.
“I was able to pull myself together. It was very difficult for me, and it was difficult for quite a long time. I was forced to stop all communication with her, but from time to time she hurt me with calls and messages. I had to move and change my room in order not to go completely crazy. I was able to survive it, and all this made me wiser, for which I am grateful to fate. Now I am happy because I met another woman and was able to love her. And how wonderful it is to realize that a person loves you in return as much as you love him.
This man was able to find his happiness, and you can too!
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