It is unpleasant when a person starts being rude, rude and insulting. And almost always he wants to say something so capacious, caustic, hitting right into the sore spot. But, I propose to act a little differently. There are ways to behave with a boor a little differently! Save your face and siege the offender!
Get away from conflict
You can get away from the conflict, and in the literal sense, turn around and leave the room, apartment, etc.
Do not repeat the boor phrases
If you want to maintain a relationship with a person, then do not repeat his phrases. Answer, for example, “I heard your point of view, but I will do it differently,” this phrase can and should be repeated as much as necessary.
Be polite
Try to make asymmetrical responses by saying something polite about rudeness.
Don't touch boors on the road
For those who are driving! Remember the rule of three "D" - "give the fool a way." By the way, this is how you can save your life in some situations.
Do not deal with the boor
For example, in a store, sellers are not always polite. Do not pay attention to them, they are not so aggressive because of their good life and salary. If you are directly hooked on the seller's words, refer to the manual, or write something like that in the book of complaints.
Switch to something else
If you are being insulted, just focus on something. Ham can pay attention and ask "what are you staring at?" And you answered him: "I look at something, I always do this when a person is not very pleasant to me!"
Come closer to the ham
Many people know how to "tyfkat" only from afar, so try to close the distance with the boor. For example, get closer, sit next to me. The negative from the boor will come much less than if you were at a distance.
Turn on ignore
Just ignore that "monkey" that is jumping around you, trying to hit with a word. The response will be great. The boors are waiting for rudeness in response, but here is a complete ignore!
Breathe deeper
Nobody likes hurtful words. If you start to feel anxious, try breathing deeper to balance your heartbeats.
Question to question
If you use this tactic, you can stop being rude towards you.
Try sarcasm
If, of course, sarcasm is appropriate in the current situation, then feel free to use it. For example, respond to rudeness that you were a little offended. So you show the boor that you do not let the negativity into you.
Carry nonsense
You can stop a boor with the help of meaningless speech. Just say some abstruse nonsense, which seems to be in agreement with the words of the boor.
Follow the main rules
And in conclusion, here is another list of tips that you need to use when communicating with a boor in order to avoid conflict.
- Do not become a boor in return. Remain calm even if your voice is raised. I understand that some boors become silent only when they receive a bunch of unpleasant words, or even threats, in response. But why do you need this negative? Be calmer, do not shout, so the boor will get mad, and calm down, because you are useless to say something.
- Stay humorous. Sometimes the situation with the boor is very funny, and generally not serious, in which case humor can be applied.
- Don't act rashly. In absolutely any situation, keep your composure.
Do you have your own ways of dealing with rudeness?
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