Millions of mothers around the world are outraged because their children do not obey them. But only you, parents, are to blame for your child's behavior! How do you want the kid to make you obey if you yourself do not hear what you are saying? How will you gain authority and respect in the eyes of a child if you constantly “spew out” negativity, condemn and threaten? Just rephrase your words and you can get what you want!
Learning to speak correctly with a child
"What should you remember?" instead of "Be careful!"
Children start to ignore the phrases that we say every day. It is clear that the mother is worried about the baby, and wants to warn him, but it is better to pronounce it a little differently.
"Please be calm!" instead of "Calm down!"
Explain, do not indicate. Children, of course, are noisy, and some scream in such a way that the ears of those around them block. Just look your child in the eyes calmly and say in a low voice so that he is a little calmer.
"Can you handle it yourself or help you?" instead of "Quickly dress / put away toys!"
Children don't want to be empowered and forced to do something. And if you give them a choice, they will not resist.
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"Please ..." instead of "Stop / don't!"
Learn to say not what you don't want, but what you, on the contrary, want. Instead of - "No need to scatter toys!", "Please put the toys back!"
"Do you want to go home now or in ten minutes?" instead of "It's time for us to go home!"
For example, the situation with the street, when it's time to go home. Do not tell your child to urgently collect all of his toys from the sandbox, because you have to go home. Offer him a choice, and after 10 minutes he will begin to assemble himself.
"We need to go faster today!" instead of "Because of you, we're late!"
Try to include games in your phrases. For example, tell your child that today you need to transform into race cars and go faster. Children are slow in themselves, and you should let them be. But, if you are in a hurry, try to make the rush interesting!
"Let's add this toy to the list of birthday gifts!" instead of "I won't buy you this!"
Be honest with your child. If you really can't buy him an expensive toy, then maybe you can postpone buying it for a more opportune moment?
“Let’s calm down and then ask?” instead of "Stop whining!"
Repeat this several times until your baby calms down. Works flawlessly!
"Respect yourself and others!" instead of "Be good!"
It is necessary to explain to the child that it is necessary to respect both yourself and those around you. Be specific, because children often fail to perceive general statements.
"Work as a team!" instead of "If you behave like this, no one will play with you!"
Almost all children want to be first and love to dominate. Teach him to be a team member, show him how to act instead of telling.
"I need you to ..." instead of "Stop doing this!"
Your statements will not work, and the first phrase is a request that the child will gladly fulfill.
"Cry, I sympathize with you!" instead of "Stop crying!"
It's okay to cry. The child so splashes out negative emotions, so it is better to hug and have pity.
"What did this mistake teach you?" instead of "Again you failed!"
You settle in the child the uncertainty with the second phrase, as well as the unwillingness to take up at least some business again. Therefore, if something did not work out for him, do not condemn, but talk calmly.
"I'll wait for you to finish everything!" instead of "How long have you been, let me do it myself!"
Over time, the child will stop doing anything at all, because he knows that his parents will do everything for him. Hurry less, endure. Let the child do it himself, learn, fail.
"I love you, no matter what" instead of "You acted very badly - I do not love you! / I will not kiss you after your act!"
Your love for your child should not depend on their behavior, good or bad.
"I'm worried because ..." instead of "You're still small for this!"
Children want to show themselves as adults, but with phrases like that they can't climb trees and fences, walk alone, pick up a knife, because they are small, you only encourage them. So explain that you are worried so your baby respects the limitations.
"What do you think?" instead of "Your opinion is not interesting to me!"
If you don't care about the child's opinion, and you only put yours at the head of any situation, then he will never learn to make his own decision.
These phrases will help you become respected in the eyes of your children, and they will begin to obey you.
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