It is very difficult to raise a good person from your child. The problems of fathers and children are eternal, different generations do not understand each other, but most of all this understanding and patience falls on the shoulders of adults, that is, ours.
Of course, we all want to remain good and adequate parents, but not everyone is sure that they are raising children correctly. Today I want to talk about Tibetan education. Suddenly someone will come in handy! These wise tips will help you grow a developed, literate personality!
Tibetan parenting. Take note!
The first thing to understand is never humiliate or beat your child! This is very mean, because small children cannot give back to an adult. They just won't physically take it out! Would you raise your hand against a person who is twice as strong and more than you? I doubt it. So, this is a piece of advice from me. If you cannot control yourself, in moments of rage and anger, imagine that you have a huge fighter in front of you sumo, master of sports in boxing, well, or someone else whom you would not want to "move" because you were afraid would.
And now to education by age
Up to 5 years
Well, this is straight childhood, childhood! Firstly, it is pointless to be strict with a child at this age - nothing will be deposited with him. Secondly, do not deprive the baby of childhood, let him learn everything, get to know the world around him. Tibetan upbringing says that the child must be treated during this period, "like a king." Absolutely no prohibitions! If a child does something dangerous for him or for others, then you do not need to shout at him, just make, for example, a frightened face, or scream as if you were frightened. The kid will definitely understand this language. Until the age of five, an interest in life, curiosity and activity are laid in a little man.
At this age, children still do not know how to build a logical chain. For example, a child tore or break something. There is no need to shout, he does not understand that a thing is expensive and that in order to buy it, you need to work, earn money, then go to the store and buy the thing. So, if you punish for a spoiled thing, the child will understand something completely different. He will understand that it is necessary to obey the one who is stronger than him, and not that it is impossible to spoil things.
5 to 10 years old
Sit down quietly. These are not my rules, this is Tibetan upbringing. From 5 to 10 years old, a baby must be treated “like a slave”! What does it mean? This means that at this age you can set your own rules, demand that your requests be fulfilled, and punish for failure to do so. At this time, the human intellect develops. The child learns to anticipate the reaction of people to his actions. He learns to avoid manifestations of negativity and to induce a good attitude towards himself in others.
10 to 15 years old
And at this age the child must be treated “on an equal footing”. It is clear that an adult has more knowledge and experience. Therefore, the manifestation of "equality" should consist in advice with the child on some important topics and issues, encouragement of independence. And you can impose your will with advice, tips, during a discussion. If you do not like the child's behavior, then emphasize the possible bad consequences that can happen, but no open prohibitions. At this age, a person develops his own opinion, independence and independence.
From 15 years old
Tibetan upbringing says that after 15 years, a child just needs to be respected. It is already too late to engage in education, it remains only to reap the fruits of their own labor.
What happens if you don't follow these rules?
Up to 5 years
If you do not treat the child "like a king", then you can suppress the development of intelligence, interest in life. The child will simply mechanically obey the elders, but this is not respect, but fear.
5 to 10 years old
If you do not treat a child “like a slave,” he will turn into a spineless and inept lazy person.
10 to 15 years old
If you don’t treat your child “as an equal” during this period of age, then he will grow up to be an insecure person, will look for more independent friends, companions in life. He will communicate with those who will influence him.
From 15 years old
And, if you do not respect a child from the age of 15, then he simply will not respect you either. He will fly out of the nest at the first opportunity, and will never forgive you.
Do you think these parenting methods can be designed for our modern children?
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