In every family where children grow up, special attention is paid to education. But, unfortunately, not everyone has enough attention and time to surround their child with all the blessings and all-consuming love. Sometimes parents are too strict with children, are busy building their own lives, and do not consider the growing man a person. This is how unhappy and disliked children turn into the same unhappy and deprived adults. Unhappy children are a problem for the whole state, and not just for an individual family. Let's find out about the signs of disliking children, which will certainly be useful for both parents and future dads and mothers.
How to understand that a person was disliked in childhood
He's too sensitive
In childhood, the child received less parental warmth, understanding and love, and this was reflected in the formation of his personality. He became overly sensitive emotionally, insecure and timid. He becomes a nervous adult who worries about any reason, reacts very painfully to even minor blows of fate. Any little things hurt him, he takes everything to heart.
He doesn't trust anyone
How can a person learn to trust others if in childhood he had no one to trust at all? He lacked the care of his parents, and he so wanted to share his experiences, successes and problems. From childhood, he had a feeling of uselessness. Therefore, becoming an adult, a person is very afraid to face again inattention and lack of care, because of this he cannot trust even attentive and kind people.
He is prone to depression.
Unfortunately, disliked children, as adults, often face mental disorders. Most often, the main problem of these adults is a tendency to depression, and increased anxiety. But depression is not a fiction, but a very destructive disease. It eats up a person from the inside, has a detrimental effect on his personality and can lead to more unpleasant consequences.
He does not know how to distinguish between his emotions.
Disliked children have big problems with emotional intelligence in the future. It becomes much more difficult for them than for others to distinguish, as well as show their emotions. This is actually a pretty serious problem.
He is constantly afraid to make a mistake.
If a child grew up in cold emotional stress, he will have problems in the future with realizing his own worth. A person is afraid to make a mistake, therefore he becomes indecisive, timid, he usually has low self-esteem and has no confidence in himself and his strength.
He is prone to addiction
According to experts, unloved children are much more likely to get addiction of various types. This is a way to compensate for the love you have not received earlier. Unfortunately, this, of course, takes the person to complete failure.
It is very difficult for him to build a relationship
As we have understood, an unloved child becomes an indecisive, vulnerable, distrustful, withdrawn adult, often prone to addictions. And it is quite difficult for such a person to build relationships, both friendly and in a work collective, and loving.
It turns out that a lot depends on us, parents. But some do not even realize the responsibility that falls on parental shoulders. But it is not just that there are such professions as psychologists and psychiatrists. If you yourself are afraid not to cope, or are already unable to cope, contact the specialists! You will definitely be able to make your child's life, now and in the future, happier and better.
