There are a lot of different books on raising children, all kinds of courses, trainings and more. But all the same, in reality there are much more problems than in books, and when you come across them, you do not know in which direction to start moving in order to do the right thing, and not harm the baby, not ruin everything with your education. Today, let's talk about the spoiledness of children. How to understand that your child is too spoiled, how to prevent this and what to do in general?
They say that children languish, both from lack of attention and from its overabundance. Look, your child has dreams, and, of course, parents should try to fulfill them, but only if they are not whims! For example, if your child dreams of a toy for a long time, why not buy it? If your child is throwing a real tantrum so that you just buy it, then these are whims and you cannot indulge them.
Look, sometimes this is what happens in the family. Mom is reprimanding for something, the child runs, for example, to his grandmother, who regrets. If the grandmother also scolds, the child is looking for another “loved one” in the family. As a result, he begins to realize that there will always be an adult who will certainly regret and will stop responding to any complaints about him.
Let's identify 10 signs that your little one is over-spoiled.
Frequent tantrums
Spontaneous and unreasonable tantrums become a continuation of whims. Toddlers cannot yet correctly express their feelings and emotions, so aggression towards themselves and others appears.
Constant irritation
When a child has only a dream about a new toy in front of his eyes, nothing makes him happy, he quickly gets bored with everything, everything starts to annoy him. And this irritation is constantly present.
Negative attitude towards household chores
This is a sign of being spoiled. If you tell your child a hundred times a day that he needs to clean the room, and he either ignores it, or just shifts things from place to place so that it can be seen that he was doing something, then this is exclusively your wine.
An attempt to subjugate everyone
Firstly, a spoiled kid does not fulfill the requirements of adults, and secondly, he tries to subdue everyone.
An uncomfortable position in front of others
A spoiled toddler deliberately puts his parents in an uncomfortable position to make them ashamed of him. So he asserts himself, and this can already be considered a serious problem.
Greed
Another sign of being spoiled is that the child does not want to share with other toys and other objects. If this is left to chance, then in addition to greed, the child will also take away toys from others.
Parents are not authority
The child does not need to be persuaded, you must be an authority for him, he must understand that if you ask for something, then he should not be capricious. But if you ask a child about something, and he continues to be capricious, this is a sign of spoiledness.
There is no word "no"
Yes, for a spoiled child, this word simply does not exist. As soon as it is pronounced, whims and tantrums begin.
Inability to play on your own
According to psychologists, a three-year-old child should already play independently. If your baby constantly demands your presence from you, then my sympathy for you, you spoiled him. It is important to immediately set the frames, and if the mother says “no”, then she does not have the opportunity to play with the child, and he goes and plays himself!
Speculation
If you teach a child to do something in exchange for a toy or a treat, that's it, you yourself will spoil the baby and communication with him. As you grow older, the problem will only grow, and speculation will become an awful character! And, if in early childhood you got what you want for a candy, then the extortion of more expensive items, money will begin, so you should think about it now!
At first, parents usually do not even notice that a capriciousness is growing in their house. Someone even adheres to this opinion: “I want and spoil, it is not known how my child life will turn out! " Well, here we can say that a spoiled child can have a life at all not sweet. If he always got everything he wanted from his parents, and then faced with modern reality, and will understand that no one will bring him anything on a silver platter, then he will start Problems. So much for future gigolos and girls looking for daddies. When the parents of already grown-up spoiled children are unable to satisfy their whims and requests, the grown-up whims are looking for new victims.
Be careful! Sometimes a spoiled child, who did not immediately get what he wants, begins not only to show aggression, become apathetic and angry, but also can harm his own health!
Why did your child become spoiled:
- you were too protective of him;
- you have always given him what he wants;
- you replaced your love and attention for the child with the purchase of toys.
Why do parents spoil their children?
- This happens in families where only one child grows up, because he always gets the best. This usually changes when the second baby is born.
- The child is long-awaited and, as they say now, hard-won.
- Parents are sure that if a child knows what he wants to get, and achieves it by any means, then he becomes a leader, although in fact the opposite is true.
- Parents or parents and grandparents have different ideas about parenting.
In conclusion, to re-educate a spoiled baby is difficult, and almost impossible. But, if you show firmness, willpower and confidence in your abilities, then you will certainly succeed. Remember, being spoiled will not do your child any good. Do not think that his life will be easy later, he will face many problems in the future. And do not count, if you are now giving your baby everything he wants, as soon as he “stomps his foot”, he will certainly take care and help you in your old age in the same way.
Become more attentive and demanding to your child, before it's too late, and, you will see, your labors in the future will be rewarded!
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