Usually they write everywhere about the signs of an unhappy woman in a relationship, that men are somehow doing something wrong for us, we are missing something, etc. But today I want to bring up a topic opposite to this. Why can a man be unhappy in a relationship?
Sometimes it happens that a couple marries with wrong expectations. And the main mistake is to expect something a lot from a partner, and not from yourself. Take a closer look at your faithful! Doesn't he seem to you somehow unhappy, detached, pensive? If so, let's figure out the reasons for his such mood!
Why is he unhappy?
He envisioned marriage as something else
He loves you, from the very first meeting, or fell in love a little later, but this is not enough for the marriage to be truly happy. Men are generally mostly afraid of marriage. In their minds, this is the end. End of life, at least! Therefore, if such a doubting man still takes a step towards the registry office, he is already ready for the fact that his life will no longer change. But happy couples continue to develop in marriage, get to know each other better and learn to love. And many men want nothing to change, and life with his wife remained the same as before marriage.
It seems to him that you do not appreciate him.
Think about how you feel about what your man does for the family, to the fact that he works a lot, etc. Do you tell him that he is great? Do you say thank you if he cooked dinner, threw out the trash, or washed the dishes? Such little things are very important for men. And you must show your loved one that you appreciate all his efforts. The mistake of many women is disrespecting a man. And it kills family happiness. If you want your relationship to be harmonious, and your man to be happy, then at least occasionally say compliments and pleasant words to him.
He feels strong control on your part.
Think, but have you become too often to load your beloved, poke him with his shortcomings, wrong behavior, or maybe you are trying to tell him how to do and how not? You are driving the man into a corner with your "instructions". And moreover, you no longer notice how you control a man, which negatively affects his masculinity. You may be a good woman, beautiful, economic, etc., but a man wants to feel like a man next to you! Let him do something imperfectly, but let the man make mistakes, it's not fatal!
You became his mother
It is clear that any woman worries about her spouse, but don't go overboard. You don't have to call him all the time and ask if everything is fine with him, if he has eaten, if he has put on a hat. Your man already has one mother, if he had enough of her, he would not start a relationship with you.
It seems to him that he will not make you happy.
Sometimes a man thinks that if he only had a little more money, he could give you more. Plus, that's how you looked at that ring in the jewelry showcase and that fur coat in the store! A man may be disappointed in his own powers. Therefore, if he makes an effort, and you do not appreciate it, he may stop trying altogether. He will simply "fold his pens" and offer to leave, because he does not believe in himself and does not feel that he will make you happy.
He has little intimacy
Never, do you hear, never punish a man with a lack of sex! During intimacy, the body produces oxytocin, a love hormone that brings a couple closer together. Otherwise, if there is no sex, you will move away!
You started yourself
You used to take care of yourself constantly, but now you have begun to devote less time to this. It is clear that you need to love not for appearance, but for human qualities, not for the "shell", so to speak, but for the "filling"! But, this does not mean that you need to abandon your body altogether and relax after the wedding. Well, they've already caught the guy, and you don't have to strain. A girl should always be neatly dressed, with a manicure, at least with light makeup, etc.
You have dedicated yourself entirely to children
Many men suffer from the fact that with the advent of children in the family, wives stop giving them due attention. Well, here is another plus or as a consequence of the lack of intimacy and control on your part. It is imperative to set aside time for a man, spend evenings with him, talk, etc. It is clear that the purpose of a woman, first of all, is motherhood, but this can negatively affect your relationship!
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