Some people come into our lives so unexpectedly. They appear suddenly, brightly, and exactly when we need them. So these are the "teachers" and come into our world so that we can get a life lesson... But, how to understand who is next to you - a person who is temporarily in your life or is it a kindred spirit?
The people we love are either our kindred spirits or “teachers”. The first are the love of our whole life, and we are destined to be with them until the end of our days, living hand in hand. The second appear when we feel bad, when we have lost the meaning of life, they are a kind of teachers who are needed only for experience.
How to understand that there is a “teacher” next to you?
Most often, "teachers" become our partners in life, relations with whom subsequently fall apart. And we know in advance that we will not succeed with them, but all the same, we enter into such a relationship. Maybe it's a desire to be needed by someone, or maybe love, but we love our partner more.
“Teachers” are people with whom we make many mistakes and blunders. Sometimes these mistakes are terrible, can backfire, and they help us learn a lesson. Thanks to the “teachers, we become sadder, but wiser. And these people are there until we learn the lesson.
It happens that "teachers" appear next to us in difficult times. They brighten up loneliness, fill life with meaning, make our existence brighter. And they arise in our lives in moments of depression, in difficult situations. They stay close until we start feeling better again, we will not breathe deeply, until we understand that we mean something in this life. And that's when they disappear. And this is also a kind of lesson.
Or maybe your partner is a "soul mate"?
And, of course, I want to know who is next to you - a soul mate or, after all, a teacher. Probably, we are simply afraid to experience pain when suddenly the “teacher”, whom we considered the meaning of our life, suddenly disappears from it.
Do you know how with kindred spirits? There is a feeling that you are like one whole, you fit each other in all respects. You know it will always be this way.
You don't need to look for reasons why you should love. Even love seems natural to you. You enjoy spending time together and even being silent. You can talk on any topic, you complement each other's thoughts out loud, you have the same intentions and goals, you have the same view of what is happening.
What if the partner belongs to the category of "teachers"?
It is painful, offensive and even scary to learn, to realize that your partner, whom you considered your soul mate until the end of your days, turned out to be a “teacher”. The first thing you want to do is try to “turn” this very “teacher” into a kindred spirit. After all, it is very difficult to admit that a relationship that you have gone headlong into is doomed to failure.
We convince ourselves that the connection with the “teacher” is much deeper and closer than it should have been. But still nothing changes. The "teacher" is destined to leave our life, leaving a trace in it.
Understand that you cannot change anything. You will be constantly under stress and anxiety that everything will end. Therefore, accept the fact that your relationship is only a "temporary phenomenon", nothing more!
One day a person worthy of you will come into your life, he will be your soul mate. You will immediately feel it, and you will no longer have doubts that this is forever.
You just need to be patient, everything has its time. Until you meet your soul mate, learn, learn, and experience.
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