Have you been ready for a relationship for a very long time, but still you will not meet a soul mate? And many of your classmates, even in high school, met their love, got married, had children, and it seems to you that everything was so easy for them. Do not think that something is wrong with you! Just try a new strategy!
Here are the steps to help you meet “your” person
Free yourself from limiting beliefs about love
Even from early childhood, a person has formed ideas about love. Exactly what we saw in our family was deposited in our head and influenced us in the future. It is good if there was an idyll in the family, your parents loved each other, treated each other with respect, did not quarrel, and were treated with love. But if there were problems in the family, they also left their mark. If you think that you should make sacrifices, feel unworthy, think that you have to endure something in a relationship, then it's time to understand that this is wrong!
This is a toxic relationship, toxic behavior that should never be tolerated. You need to realize all these moments from the past, work through them, and not live like a blueprint of the past. If it is not possible to cope on your own, then it is better to use the help of a specialist.
Don't run from your inner child
Maybe in childhood you were disliked, and this left an imprint on you. Maybe your parents were not very good people, or maybe they themselves simply did not know how to love. Therefore, there is a so-called imbalance between how you were given love and how you needed to feel it. As an adult, a person can heal their wounds. That same “inner child” needs to be appeased periodically, giving him what he did not receive in childhood. Quite simple, pamper him! Do not disappoint yourself, cancel your “meeting with yourself”, take time for yourself!
Practice forgiveness
We all make mistakes in life, both you and your exes did. But if you hold on to it, a block will form in you. Begin to forgive already, but do not forget about the lessons and experiences from the past. Your forgiveness does not mean that you think mistakes are normal. No, so you just let go of your anger, resentment and finally begin to move on. You will learn to understand yourself and others, learn to become better. By forgiving, you can let go of your attachment to an event or to someone.
Learn to communicate sincerely
It is very difficult to get exactly what you want in a relationship if you don’t know at all how to ask for it. Your partner will not be able to read your thoughts or intuitively understand what exactly you need. Therefore, there is no need to be silent, talk about what you feel, ask for what you want.
Clarify what you really want
Sometimes people themselves don't know what they want from a relationship. No, they know that they do not want betrayal, lies, humiliation, insults. But they themselves cannot even clarify what they want. What you want is not the opposite of what you don't want. You need to have a clear picture in your head who you want to see the person next to you, what kind of relationship you want. If you visualize, you can create it much faster.
Take your time
The person you meet will be a stranger to you. Therefore, you do not need to immediately rush into a relationship, like into a pool with your head. Yes, you should believe in the best in a person, but don't rush. Get to know each other better, get to know each other's values, understand how compatible you are.
Be the person you want to attract
First of all, you need to love yourself, start appreciating yourself, treat yourself with kindness and understanding. You don't find love in another person, you share your love with another person!
I wish you to meet "your" person as soon as possible, and I will be glad if my advice will help you!
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