Everyone knows that with age, a person seems to become angrier or something. Remember only the grandmothers on the bench, try not to say hello to them just once, and that's it, you are the worst neighbor in the yard. And that's putting it mildly. We attribute this to old age, insanity, bad manners, their diseases. Perhaps this is also partly the reasons, but hatred of others begins much earlier!
The older a person becomes, the more difficult it is for him to make friends with people, and therefore he begins to hate everyone around. And in your youth, wherever you go, everywhere you meet friends, acquaintances, people with whom a sudden conversation on general topics is struck. When we met again, we even truly believed that these people would remain in our lives forever. Only time and our growing up changed all this. Someone betrayed us, undermined our trust, someone broke our hearts, someone just left the social circle, somehow quietly, imperceptibly and forever. All disappeared somewhere, all those without whom we could not imagine our life.
It's just that with age, a person does not want to put up with the betrayal of people, and indeed with everything that he does not like. As we age, we begin to hate those around us.
In our youth, we want to have more friends, we often worry about what they think of us, we do a lot to please others. Because of this, we often become victims of manipulators and find ourselves in toxic friendships, toxic relationships.
As we grow older, we no longer want to put up with deceitful fake friends around. If a person does not want to maintain friendship, then let him roll. If a person behaves inappropriately, then a tablecloth path. It's better to be alone than to be with someone and feel lonely and terrible, because we no longer have time for this.
With age, we begin to be afraid of people, because we know what they can be - deceitful and evil. We don't want to have anything to do with them, and because of this we become angry ourselves.
We make ourselves polite and friendly, we still communicate with people, but just don't let them into our hearts. We are not open, we do not show vulnerabilities, we do not reveal secrets to anyone.
With age, a person is no longer interested in new friends, because we all went through this, and it did not end well, there is no trust in people.
In childhood, a person truly believes that everyone around him wants only the best for him, but then he encounters the reality of a cruel world, and begins to understand that people around him do not care. The older a person gets, the less he wants to put someone above himself.
With age, we begin to love more ourselves, and not someone else, it is then that changes occur in us in relation to others. We stop trying for someone, to please someone, instead we start to please ourselves. We do not allow others to use us, because of this, people are sifted out from us, because we are not useful.
With age, a person begins to put himself above everyone else, to appreciate, love and improve himself. And this is not the reason for old age, but maturity. In all, it occurs at different ages. Someone is already drinking plenty of human anger at 30, someone at 40, and someone at the age of 50. But this applies over time to everyone.
We begin to hate others more because others have hurt us at some point. We are afraid that this will happen again, so we put a shield next to ourselves out of pride, anger and mistrust.
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