Unfortunately, now even a loved one can be toxic or manipulative. We often help our friends, support our relatives, and trust them with our secrets. And how unpleasant and painful it is to suddenly realize that you were brazenly used. It doesn't matter for what purpose, the importance of all this is that you were just comfortable, needed for something. It is clear that all this is very unpleasant, and no one is immune from this. But I'll still tell you about the signs that will immediately show that people are using you!
Don't let yourself be used, pay attention to these signs!
People are not interested in your business
Do you have people around you who constantly talk about themselves and don't even let you put in a word? They call when something happened to them, and they never ask, but how are you doing? They do not remember that you had an important meeting yesterday, they absolutely do not care what you are trying to tell them about it, they are only interested in their personal life. Agree, this is quite unpleasant in a conversation. Now remember, are there any such people among your friends or even relatives? Just don't make up stupid excuses for them, they use you as free ears, and they don't give a damn about you!
People never help you
You are always ready to help your friend, mom, neighbors. But, just when you have any difficulties, it is impossible to wait for help from them. As soon as you get into trouble, as soon as you need someone to help, then people immediately disappear somewhere. They have their own affairs, problems, and they cannot allocate even a minute for you. They are used to taking from you, but not giving to you.
People manipulate you
It is sometimes very difficult to understand that a person is being manipulated. But think about it, if you suddenly say: “I don’t want to do this,” and you continue, it means that you are being used by a manipulator. It is convenient for this person to use you as a tool to achieve their goals. Maybe he himself does not want to do this, he is shy, afraid, and you are the most ideal option for him. He simply wipes his feet about you, sooner or later, when it is not profitable for him to communicate with you, he will simply part with you. And you know, you will also blame yourself for what you did something wrong. Well, or they didn't.
What if a person fits all of the listed signs? Even if you notice one of the three, you should reconsider your relationship with the person. Is he not interested in your business? Stop being interested in his life, boldly interrupt when he tells you something, or say that you have to go. Doesn't help you? So what's the problem? Just start already to deny him help too. You will most likely be ashamed for your behavior, but stand your ground: "No help from you - there will be no help from me either." Are you being manipulated? Show restraint, firmness of character, do not follow the lead of others. This is your life, and only you can decide what to do, what to do and what to say.
If people still do not change, then there is only one way out - to cut off communication. No matter how difficult it may be for you, no matter how much you regret the long years of friendship, blood relationship, etc., you need to understand that you are simply being used, and this cannot continue. In an extreme case, if it is impossible to completely cut off communication with a person, at least limit it. Start to love, appreciate and respect yourself, no one will do this for you.
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