Many women, communicating with men, are very dissatisfied with their attitude towards themselves. They are sure that a man is obliged to respect, appreciate, love them, but he does not. Have you ever thought to look at this problem deeper, without humiliating the gathering of men? After all, the relationship of a man to a woman is a projection of her relationship to herself!
No, I am not saying that a man should not take care of a woman and not strive to make her happy. These 2 poles exist together and there is a thin border between them.
You can become self-sufficient, withdraw into yourself, and stop “accepting” from a man, or you can place all responsibility on men's shoulders, but then the relationship will turn out like between a rapist and a victim.
We must not jump from one extreme to another, but keep a balance between these two poles. You can constantly develop and improve, not expecting help from a man, but accepting his care.
It is, in principle, normal to expect certain actions from a man, while remaining a self-sufficient woman. You are allowing a man to take care of you, but you are not giving him the right to rule your own life.
So why is a man's relationship to a woman a projection of her own relationship to herself?
If a woman is afraid that a man will leave her, that's okay. But, if this turns into hyper fear, which degenerates into a fix idea and leads to nervous breakdowns, this is already serious. So, you are very much afraid that a man will leave you, which means that you should think about in what situations you left yourself. These situations were painful and likely repeated many times.
And how do you want a man not to give a damn about you? If this worries you, then there may be reason to reflect when you treated yourself in the same way.
All those claims that we make to our partner are our personal claims to ourselves! And we always present them, regardless of whether there is a man nearby or not.
It's just that we are dissatisfied with ourselves, and we want a man to close this gap. But he will not do this until we ourselves begin to love and appreciate ourselves.
Therefore, if you do not want a man to humiliate you, then do not humiliate yourself, if you want a man to love you, then you will love yourself, etc.
If there is something in you that you are ashamed of in front of you, then your partner will eventually pay attention to it. And he will expose it exactly in the light in which you relate to it.
If you want to hide from everyone, then you just want to hide from yourself. If you laugh at someone or shame someone, then you are ashamed of yourself. If you think that you have been hurt, then you yourself have already hurt, and more than once.
You must definitely love yourself, especially in those places that seem to be flaws, and after that you will be able to love yourself entirely. And after that, the man will also love you for who you are.
Here are the questions to ask yourself:
What are you offended at?
What are you afraid of in communicating with others?
What do you want others not to see?
What are you ashamed of in you?
What do you blame yourself for?
Answer yourself to these questions, try to understand, love, forgive in some way. And then you will be able to make your relationship with a man, and with all your friends / colleagues / relatives strong, sincere and trusting.
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