A child absorbs information much better in childhood. Some of the things he learns from his parents take on just global significance for him. In childhood, everything is brighter, more dramatic, and sometimes even a phrase thoughtlessly blurted out by dad or mom can become fatal!
There are things your child shouldn't know about.
Secrets of other children
Mommies sometimes secret with each other about children. But in no case should you then devote your own to the secrets told about someone else's child. Children will decide for themselves what they should share and what not, and parents do not need to get involved in this. Otherwise, you will look like a gossip, because children are chatty, and they will definitely tell where they got the information from.
Parental quarrels
Make it a rule - never to sort things out with your husband in front of your children. Firstly, children can be very scared, because for them there is no right or wrong, they love both dad and mom equally. Second, they may lose all respect for their parents. Of course, there is nowhere without conflicts, but try to resolve them peacefully, in no case make scandals, think not about yourself, but about the child first of all. You probably want your child to learn how to resolve disputes peacefully?
Your dissatisfaction with the school
No matter how stupid the tasks at school are, no matter how tired you are of the class teacher, forcing you to come and make repairs in the classroom, you should not say bad things about the school in front of your children. Children can adopt your position, which will be reflected in their communication with teachers. By the way, teachers should also take note of this. After all, some incompetent teachers, right in front of children, begin to speak impartially about their parents, and in the eyes of the children, their fathers and mothers become not quite good, respect is lost.
Criticism behind the back
Do not have the habit of complaining about your children behind their backs to relatives, acquaintances, friends. So you will lose the child's trust, he will close from the whole world, believing that he is not understood and not heard.
Criticizing your body
Surprisingly, if you scold yourself in front of the mirror for "not such" a figure, the child begins to think that since you do not love yourself, then you do not love him as he is. This can lead to eating disorders at a young age! Take care of yourself, and learn to love yourself, then the children will adopt this attitude from you.
Dislike of healthy food
You will not be able to instill a love for fruits and vegetables in your child if you yourself prefer baked goods and cola. Children cannot understand why you can, but they cannot. So, if you so want to eat unhealthy fast food, then it is better not to do this with a child. And don't say, for example, that steamed broccoli is really nasty. So you will create a dislike for healthy food in your child.
Financial difficulties
It is clear to you that money can be difficult, that it can hardly be enough to last at least a month. And the child has not yet faced adulthood, and for him the information that mom and dad have financial problems can be a product of anxiety and fear.
Scary stories
The child definitely needs to know that there are bad people called bandits. They can steal, kidnap people, do some other bad deeds. But try not to turn your story into a horror story. Encourage your child to do this in his own language! Otherwise, you can injure the baby, and he will not become more careful, but will begin to be afraid of everything around.
Take care of the psyche of your children!
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