Of course, everyone understands that it is impossible to raise a child without quarrels. Conflicts between fathers and children have been known for a long time, sometimes everyone has misunderstandings and discontent. The most important thing here is to stop in time and not blur out what you can regret very much later!
Try to behave with dignity during an argument, and avoid the following phrases at all costs!
Any profanity
It is worth making it a rule not to swear in front of children, and in general, cross out any mat from your vocabulary. If your child prefers to use mate, then do not reciprocate. You are an adult, and you should be able to express yourself without profanity.
Insults
Fighting should be a constructive expression of your feelings and concerns. And it happens not in order to just throw it all out, but in order to work on it later. Any insults, labels, humiliation of a child can not only upset or anger him, but also harm his psyche. Stop, this is your child, and with your insults, you simply lower him below yourself, you will hurt him very much. Sometimes the words spoken by parents stick to the psyche of children, and underestimate their self-esteem.
"You'd better not be born!" or "I'm sorry I gave birth to you!"
This is in case the child says something like "I didn't ask you to give birth to me!" This is the worst thing that you can say, because with your usual phrase you show your doubts about the life of your child.
"You ruined my whole life!" or "You are my mistake!"
Only an immature parent can say that. It's like if a child wanted to be bought a toy, and then she took it and got tired of it. If you went to have a child, then it was your decision, not his!
"There is better than you!" or "Why can't you be like other kids?"
Don't compare your child to other children. You, too, are far from ideal, and there are people who are more successful, richer, more beautiful than you. Each person is unique, and you don't need to ask your child to become someone else! Your child should be the best for you!
"I do not love you!" or "I hate you!"
Never say that. These phrases are tactless, meaningless, they hurt a lot and alienate the child from their parents. Choose your words, think before you blurt out this!
"Shut your mouth, I don't care!" or "Shut up, I don't care!"
It is very difficult to listen to a person in a quarrel. But, if the reason for it is a misunderstanding, then you need to listen, otherwise the problem will only get worse!
"I'll leave you!" or "I'm leaving!"
Even if your child tells you that he does not need you, this is not true. For each of us - mother is the closest, beloved and brightest person. Don't even give your kids a reason to feel abandoned! If during a fight you feel that you are just at the peak and about to explode, just go outside, just tell your child that you are only for a couple of minutes and keep your word!
"Get out of here!" or "Get out!"
Even if you rashly tell your child to leave home, he will feel truly abandoned and betrayed. And then you cool down, but the child may not want to return home anymore!
Be calm in moments of quarrels with your child, exercise patience, self-control and self-discipline! You are older, you must be smarter and wiser! Keep these disgusting phrases to yourself, don't hurt your child!
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