All our fears, habits, behavioral features come straight from childhood. By an adult, you can determine what happened in his deep childhood, how he was treated, what he received less. Sometimes you don't even need to go to a psychologist, because everything is clear and everything is visible. I am sure that you do not want to injure your baby, you do not want to ruin him not only childhood, but his whole life in general! That is why I am now addressing you, dear dads and mothers! It is worth trying not to inflict a very serious injury on your child, children do not deserve such treatment!
We alone are responsible for our children! Only we can give them love and affection, surround them with care and prepare them for adulthood. And, unfortunately, it is we who can injure them with the wrong upbringing and our inappropriate behavior... Because of childhood traumas, anxiety and depression can forever settle in a child's soul. And the adult will then become uncontrollable, impulsive, dependent, embittered ...
Today I want to talk about these childhood traumas
Abandoned child
We are talking about children whom mothers abandoned in the hospital. From childhood, a child needs parental affection and support. It's a huge betrayal to leave your child! There are simply no words to describe all the indignation that I have in my soul. This is a big sin, first of all, in front of your own little lump. The researchers say that abandoned children simply automatically become emotionally dependent and insecure. By the way, one more small addition, I, of course, am ready for the fact that someone will condemn my words. But I believe that the children whom their parents left with their grandparents to build a career are also abandoned ...
Humiliation
Sometimes parents overdo it in their upbringing, and go to screaming and even humiliating the child. In no case should you negatively comment on the child's studies, behavior, and appearance. Experts say this humiliation is like physical pain!
Pressure
It is clear that every parent wants his child to grow up happy and successful. But constantly and excessively strong pressure can cause a feeling of hopelessness and anxiety in the child. And there is no need to justify your behavior by caring about the future of your child, to whom are you lying? Sometimes it seems to me that parents simply assert themselves at the expense of their children, trying to show them that they are cooler, smarter, more powerful than them. In fact, children can earn neurosis for themselves because of you.
Betrayal
Children are very pure creatures, and overly gullible. Any betrayal, even a petty one that seems insignificant to adults, can cause irreparable psychological trauma to a child.
Injustice
If a child is faced with injustice from childhood, this also affects him negatively. He has a negative perception of the world. He cannot adequately assess his role in various life situations. Think about it!
Emotional detachment
First of all, a child needs to talk about his love for him every day, hug him, feel sorry for him, and listen. Second, you need to respond to your baby's emotions and feelings, not suppress them. Suppressed emotions will sooner or later burst out, and it will already be difficult to curb them.
Denial of understanding
But this leads to the fact that as an adult your child will constantly need the opinion of others and seek approval from others.
Take care of your children, don't ruin their lives!
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