I am very concerned about the issues of upbringing, because my own children are growing up. Anything happens, but when I’m already boiling, I try to take a couple of deep breaths and remember that I love these devil!
Now there are many advisers around on how to raise a child. Especially those who have no babies are clever! Following the advice of a neighbor or friend leads to quite negative consequences. All of these tips do not help us become better parents and raise our children properly. Here it is rather a view from the outside, like "this is how it should be, but this is not necessary." You need to raise a child by trusting your intuition and inner voice!
I’m not trying to rattle about and give you a bunch of useless information. This is the advice of experts, they have compiled a list of the most common mistakes in parenting. I confess, my mistakes were on this list too!
Parenting mistakes that negatively affect children!
- Do not treat your baby as small and weak-willed. You must always listen to the desires of your child, do not ignore his thoughts, otherwise he will grow up spineless and lack of initiative. In the future, it will be difficult for a person to achieve something in life.
- Do not be angry and do not swear at the child. I understand that children often disobey us and even annoy us with their behavior, but keep yourself in control. Shouting and punishing is already a mistake. So your dear little man will grow up to be an introverted person, and will be afraid to trust others.
- Don't do everything for the child. I know that sometimes it is easier and faster for the parents to feed the child, dress him and put away the toys, than waiting for the child to do everything on his own. You can help, but in no case should you do everything for the baby. He will be dependent throughout his life.
- Don't force your opinion on your child. He must have his own view and his own opinion on situations and circumstances. You will simply break the child's character, he will grow up unadapted, passive and timid.
- Do not compare your child to other children. All people are different and all children are different, including. Yes, someone is obedient and smart, while someone, on the contrary, is a real mischievous person and it is very difficult for him to study. You will compare the baby with peers who are better; he will grow up into a jealous and envious adult.
- Don't show aggression towards others. Children are not born rude and aggressive, they learn everything from us, from their parents. All their actions are a mirror image of our actions. The relationship between dad and mom should be good, without pretensions, anger and scandals, unless, of course, you want to raise an aggressive angry person.
- Do not deprive your child of your attention. You need to hug, kiss, say that you love them, be interested in how their day went throughout the day. If there is a lack of parental attention, the child will grow up into a very irritable adult. He will be unhappy with everything, because everything comes from childhood. And the lack of parental attention and love is a childhood trauma.
- Don't be too categorical with your child. Yes, the child does not always succeed as he would like in some matters. But you still have to believe in it, support it, regardless of the end result. Otherwise, the child will be afraid to tell you about his failures, because he will know that you will judge him.
- Don't constantly tell your child what to do. Firstly, he will grow up to be dependent, and secondly, he will not respect others in the future. He will get used to the fact that someone solves problems for him, and will not do anything himself, he will think that everyone around him should help him, and he himself will become dependent and cowardly.
- Don't berate your child in public. Moreover, you cannot beat a child in public, and in general, this is not the best option for upbringing. The kid will grow up insecure and will not even be able to stand up for himself.
It's actually not that hard to be good parents. You just need to show children an example by your own actions and love them, talk about your love. You need to start with yourself and then everything will certainly work out!
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