The topic of the father's influence on the upbringing and fate of children has already been raised. As we have found out, the child needs both the mother and the father equally. Contrary to all beliefs, many believe that a boy needs a father more in order for him to become a "man", but a mother is a tenderness, and an example for girls. However, experts say that maternal influence is very important for boys as well. Therefore, let's find out together how motherly love or its absence affects the fate of a son. Also, let's talk about how to raise your son on his own and not turn his connection with his mother into a neurotic one!
For every child, mom is the brightest, dearest and dearest person. Mothers themselves try to protect their sons from their very birth. And mothers very often do not understand that they sometimes go too far, thereby preventing boys from growing up free. Excessive custody, shaking over every boy's movement and step - lead to the fact that sons grow up in men unprepared for adult life. Such men do not know how, and do not want to take responsibility for their steps and actions. This type of men is known to everyone, they are also called "mama's sons".
Therefore, every mother who has a boy growing up needs to know how to behave at different periods of her son's life. There are situations and time periods when it is better to shift the upbringing of a boy onto the shoulders of his father. This is important and should not be feared.
Mom from birth to three years old son
This is the period when a child, whether a boy or a girl, is under the influence of the mother. Well, this is understandable, because after all, mothers do better with babies, teach them to sit, walk, independently eat, etc. In addition, the boy adopts emotions and experience from his mother during this period, the ability to feel others of people. Mom fills her son's heart with love, which will be used by him throughout his life. There should be purely maternal feelings, without "skewing" to love from woman to man. Yes, it also happens that then negatively affects the adult man.
Mom from three years of a son to eleven
Now a change of energy sources and priorities is taking place. Mom should fade into the background a little, and the father takes the reins. Now in modern families this is difficult for many to accomplish, because most often the dad is at work all day, and the mother is next to the child, and she has to teach some of the wisdom of life to her son. So, in order not to oversaturate your child with a purely feminine energy and not to suppress the masculine principle in him, leave the solution of problems until the father comes home from work. Running to the playground after, say, a son's fight, or to school because of a similar problem, should not be the responsibility of the mother. The father must decide and act.
The influence of a mother from eleven to sixteen years old son
A period is already coming when the signs of the masculine principle are clearly manifested in the son. The level of sensitivity decreases, there is a willingness to extract and protect. The son is preparing for the fact that he will soon have to take responsibility for his family and start making decisions.
Mom is needed, her love, affection, advice is needed, but there are periods in the life of sons when you cannot keep them constantly nearby. Only by letting them go from you can you allow them to become real men, people filled with masculine power. Then they will be able to meet exactly the right woman for them, create a strong union and a happy family. Otherwise, the guy will look for such a girl who will in some way remind him of his mother. Well, it is clear how he will treat her. The woman will have to carry the whole family on her own, do the housework and work, and the man will remain a little boy who depends on the opinion of his second mother ...
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