Many parents are so busy with work and their own problems that they do not have time for intelligible answers to children and calmly made comments. Emotionally, realizing that they are tired of all this, that because of the child's behavior they do not have time to do their job, they start screaming! Or maybe it's better to stop doing this before it's too late?
You can say that you are the most ideal mother in the world, and never be rude to your child. But this will be 95% a complete lie! We all have situations when you start to feel like a balloon that is about to burst! You may not shout that often, but on those rare occasions this method is very effective! And then your conscience doesn’t gnaw at you? After all, you understand that your screams are generally unfounded! Scattered toys, an unlearned lesson, a bad grade at school, unwashed dishes, yes, even a broken phone - all these are things for which parents scold their children, but you can explain everything calmly!
Shouting is not a solution!
How can children of 2-3-6 years old provoke a mother? What can they do so over and above the criminal, for which the parents start to make a scandal! It is very difficult to admit this, but almost every mother faces this! It's just that the child's mischievous behavior "appears" at the wrong moment in her life. At such times, the mother may even hate herself. She does not understand what is happening to her. But, having shouted once, she flares up a second, third, and over time it becomes a habit. Screaming helps! Children are silent, do not climb where it is not necessary, do not bother with questions! First of all, you need to calm down yourself, and not throw out all your nerves and emotions on your child. It is wrong and very damaging for your little one to scream for any reason!
There will come a moment when a child, having done something by accident, without even waiting for your cry, will cry bitter tears and shake like an aspen leaf. And then you will understand that your baby is afraid of you! He is afraid of his own mother! Perhaps then, you will understand that you behaved incorrectly, but your awareness of the whole situation will happen too late. Yes, a person forgets a lot from his childhood, we can say that until about 4-7 years old we practically do not remember our life. However, memories sometimes flare up bright moments from childhood. It's a joyful birthday, a trip to an amusement park, a trip to the sea, buying a dog. And your child's most vivid childhood memories will be your screams!
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Choosing a peaceful relationship
Stop before it's too late! If you realize that you are on the verge of an explosion, then just go to another room, to the bathroom, to catch your breath and remind yourself that this is just your child, and he has the right to make a mistake. He learns everything, he knows little else, he is not out of malice, not on purpose, he is defenseless, and he, in the end, does not deserve such an attitude towards himself!
Try to solve the problems and situations that have arisen in a peaceful way, explaining calmly to the child why he is doing something wrong. Over time, you will become a helper for your little one, not a supervisor. And your child will become your friend. Yes, this little man so far has a big heart that knows how to love, empathize and help!
You know, I have some acquaintances who practically do not keep in touch with their mothers. And they all say only two things, that their mothers did not support them in anything, and that they constantly shouted at them! Screaming means closing the door for conversation, moving away from the child instead of getting closer to him. Screaming - breaks the connection, it forces people to move away instead of coming closer.
It's never too late to stop yelling, children are forgiving, and they will be able to understand why you could afford to treat them this way before. Life is too short to be upset with a torn T-shirt or a broken phone. Opt for a calm, peaceful response and kindness!
And in doing this, you will teach children that the world builds bridges - bridges that can carry us through all our problems.
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